Girl or Gun

[Bandit01]

So I've been dating this girl--we're getting serious. But here's the problem. She tells me that she's deathly afraid of firearms and would not even want to be in a house with one. I asked about keeping them in a safe and she still said no. My initial reaction was to tell her to hit the road Here's my collection:

1 - 12 Guage Shotgun;
2 - Colt Delta Elite 10mm;
3 - G20 10mm;
4 - Desert Eagle .44;
5 - Super Red Hawk .44;
6 - Kimber Custom II .45;
7 - S&W 686 .357;
8 - Taurus Snub Nose .357; and
9 - S&W 1086.

Quite honestly, I don't think any chick is worth losing this collection over. Plus, I'm a reloader so I have a garage of ammo stuff.

What are your thoughts?

[Kharn]

I don't think any chick is worth losing this collection over.

There you go.
"The guns/dogs/car/truck/anime-collection were here before we met, they'll be here after you leave."

Kharn

[thumper723]

No woman is wort hgiving up your guns over. If you cave on that, it will be the first of many things.

[ChristopherG]

Step One: add a cute, harmless looking .22 rifle to the collection--I recommend a lever-action for that nice Americana-resonance. What American girl doesn't have a little Annie Oakley in her?

Step Two: Load the lever-action .22 with .22 shorts or CB caps.

Step Three: Put it in her hands and give her an empty coke can to aim it at.

[bsf]

Try reforming her.

I am a hypocrite. It is highly unlikely I would change for a woman.

[30 cal slob]

if the effort in helping her overcome her clinical hoplophobia isn't worth your time ... then it's time to find somebody new IMHO.

there are other fish in the sea.

interesting reading:

http://home.hiwaay.net/~becraft/ragingagain.PDF

[ravnew]

Have to agree with everyone else. If she can't understand that this is your hobby and wants you to give it up for her then she doesn't really care about you. Also this Will be just the first of all the things your going to have to give up.

[FieroCDSP]

Ask her if she prefers a man who can protect her or a man who will run away. You could also make it less of an issue if you store a few of them in a close friend's safe for a while. Try to reach a compromise, but understand that she has fears that may be justified. Talk with her.

[6_gunner]

Tell her how important it is to you and try to convince her to face her fears. Maybe try to talk her into going to the range or sitting in on a firearms safety class. If she won't budge, consider if you're willing to raise your children in an anti-gun household. I'd say take the guns over the girl, but love can make us do crazy things sometimes.

[jlbraun]

Take her shooting with a .22. "Afraid" is different than "against".

Oh, and BTDT.

[vnepilot]

I'm sure if you told her you couldnt stand jewelry, and she had to get rid of it all she would think you were crazy. She knew you had them before now, its not fair for her to try and change you now. If you try and change your hobbies you'll become a different person, she wont be happy unless your the same person you are now, and more importantly you wont be happy either. Thats the same advice youd get if she told you to get rid of your motorcycle, or starwars collection or what ever.

[SamColorado]

You have told us about her not liking guns and your guns. You haven't told us much about her otherwise. That's the key to equation. Would she be there for you if you went broke, got serioustly ill, etc.? If so, those are pretty serious factors and pluses in her favor. If, however, this is just one more gripe in a series, then I agree with the other posters about which you would be better off without.

[CajunBass]

Guns today....

What's tomorrow?

BTW. My wife said "There are plenty of wonderful women out there who would love to take you just the way you are."

[20nickels]

A lot of fish in the sea.

[K9american]

Dump her now.

It's just hormone poisoning, anyway.

My wife - 32 years - loves guns and loves to shoot. We stay toegether because of the dogs.

[Vern Humphrey]

There was a breach of promise suit in England in the 19th Century, where a girl told her husband-to-be he would have to choose between her and his cigars. Rudyard Kipling wrote a poem about it:

A million surplus Maggies are willing to bear the yoke
A woman is only a woman -- but a good cigar is a smoke.

[USMC - Retired]

She sounds like your one and only true love. Don't let objects stand in your way for happiness. Send all those evil guns to me so you two love birds can live happily ever after....

[GCW5]

Since I didn't see a .22 on the list, get one and take her shooting. This way, you have another gun in the collection, and you never know, she might like it. Eather way, your problem will be solved, she'll eather stay or leave on her own.

Remember, there are more girls out there. If she wants to change this part of your life, there will be more. It isn't worth the trouble down the road.

Good luck.

[Evil Monkey]

Dump her and get a new one.

It's not hard to start over and there's plenty of other women that will respect your hobby and maybe even participate to learn more about the hobby.

[SoCalShooter]

Both will keep you warm on a cold winters night but only one is gonna blast the zombies. I'd stick with the guns there are lots of girls out there who like guns.

[glockman19]

she either accepts you as you are or she doesn't. Looks like a rocky road from the git' go. What will she expect you to get rid of next?

I'd at least ask her to come to the range once so she had a basis not to like guns. If she doesn't like them after a range session then I'd make it clear that they are inanimate objects that don't sprout their own arms, legs and fingers to shoot on their own. inforce the basic firearms safety rules and if she's not satisfied by all that then I'd move on. JMHO

[waterhouse]

Does she know anything about guns? You can try to educate her, but I'd like to think you did that before you came and posted here about getting rid of your collection. If you have tried to teach her gun safety, taken her to the range, etc. and she still quakes in terror at the sight of a firearm, it is probably time to move on.

I see a fear of guns as a totally irrational fear. I try not to associate with irrational people.

You aren't choosing the guns over her. You are who you are. She is who she is. You can either accept that or spend a long, miserable time trying to change each other.

[Cocked & Locked]

Yikes! Bag Her before it is too late.

I've hunted with a guy for 20+ years. He recently got married for the first time. He is not going to hunt with us this year (getting out of land lease) and is selling his guns.

The "bride" has asked him to move is trophy mounts to the basement (house he owned/occupied prior to marriage). He now spends most of his time in the basement sulking and whinning.

Don't make his mistake!

[S.P.E.C.T.R.E.]

The fact that guns are involved is irrelevant. Any woman who demands a huge life change in order to continue the relationship will be no good for you EVER.

Tell her you like her, and wish to continue seeing her but the guns stay, period.

But like the others who replied to your thread, I agree that you at least need to TRY to get her to soften her position. I think in the future you may want to bring up the subject with a new girl fairly early on.

[ArmedBear]

Ditch the girl.

This is not someone with a rational thought in her head. This will make your future very, very difficult. Forget the guns, for the moment.

She is showing herself to be irrationally fearful. She is showing herself to be completely closed to re-thinking any idea she has. She is showing you that she doesn't like YOU, the way you are.

Stop thinking with your dick. There are a LOT of single women in the world.

I'm a 41-year-old happily-married man. I wish I'd have gotten that advice years ago, because I had relationships with a whole slough of bad choices, before meeting my wife. Every time I broke up with someone and thought I'd never meet anyone again, never get laid again, whatever, somehow I always did.

AFAIK my wife had never shot a gun, perhaps even handled one, before we met. She just didn't have her mind completely closed off.

Now she's on a t-shirt or two.