I'd start with examining M&P and Glock.
M&P40 handles recoil better than Glock22. However, M&P does not come in Glock23 size.
If you desire manual firing inhibitor thumb levers, then SR40 can be a choice.
There is also FNS40, but I cannot comment on how well it works.
H&K USP works, but H&K pistols have a high bore axis. Not much of a problem in 9mm, but quite noticable in 40S&W. USP works fine in 40S&W, but I cannot comment on recent ones like P30 because most perfornace tests on publications involves 9mm, and while they are better at quality control than most, even H&K put out malfunctioning pistols at times.
SIG has a proven track record with good 40S&W pistols. P226, P229, and SP2022 works very well with 40S&W. Those SIG absorb recoil better than any other pistols I've shot, although it does come at a price of increased muzzle rise due to the high bore axis. However, due to the heavier weight and stiff recoil system, it is lot more controllable than H&K plastic framed pistols.
CHP is very partial to M4006. There is also Beretta M96. It shares all the good things of M92, but bad things also. 9mm M92 locking mechanism durability never got a good reputation, and it can only be worse with 40S&W.
Finding a right one may not always be easy. It should be noted that while 40S&W has been around for a while, except for a few companies, it is only recent times that companies started properly designing pistols for 40S&W. Glock just managed to get one right with Gen 4 only recently, and there are companies that still do not have an idea how to properly build one.