Leaving Gun in Car

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Styx said:
How would you all deal with a stubborn significant other leaving a firearm you gifted them in their car? I ask because my wife just got her carry permit not to long ago. She really wanted a Shield, so I gave her mine. The problem is that she refuses to carry it, but instead leaves it out in the open in the cup holder on the diver side door while she's not in the car. It would be visible to anyone who looked into the window from the passager side. I've already said something on a few occasions, but she still continues to do it. We met at the mall in two separate cars today to see 3 hour movie, and when I walked her back to her car, there it was again.

Any suggestions?
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…leaves it out in the open in the cup holder on the diver side door while she's not in the car.

Not good.

I have a lock box and cable attached to an anchor in the trunk.

It’s there in the event I can’t carry somewhere and must leave my gun in the car.
 
Styx said:
How would you all deal with a stubborn significant other leaving a firearm you gifted them in their car? ... <snip> ... The problem is that she refuses to carry it, but instead leaves it out in the open in the cup holder on the diver side door while she's not in the car. It would be visible to anyone who looked into the window from the passager side. ...
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Start with something "sensitive" ... the ladies like "sensitive" ...

How'bout, "Hey, Honey, you are beooootiful and the love of my life ... but when did you become such a braindead Moron?"

WHAT? I complimented her before gently inquiring about her mysterious & precipitous plunge in IQ. She should be OK with that, right?

:)
 
Styx said:
I did and that was my intention all along. I'd let you all say what I'd get in trouble for saying.

Thanks all. I sent her a link to this thread plus the statistics on vehicle firearm theft as well as stats on where criminals get most of the firearms that are used in crimes. She agreed that it was a bad idea, and said she'd carry it or leave it at home.
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Good way to handle it. Married couples are supposed to be honest and supportive of each other always, and you were. Simply trying to keep the peace and avoid confrontation is what you do with people that don't matter.
 
Tough love but just take it away, my wife got mad early in marriage and slammed the bathroom door and broke it from its hinges she got to experience life with out that door for around 3 months until I felt she had learned the lesson.
 
My wife only carries in a purse or fanny pack. As guys we often forget what a challenge it can be for women to remain fashionable/comfortable and carry a gun.
 
Trunk Monkey said:
There's really nothing you can do. You told her, she decided to ignore your advice and that's the end of it.
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I disagree , time to take a hard line approach, I would confiscate it back until she is more reasonable. Number one way guns are stolen is from a car. Plus it is visible. Responsibility , what happens when it is stolen and used to hurt someone? Worse yet, what happens if a juvenile steals it?
 
lionking said:
I disagree , time to take a hard line approach, I would confiscate it back until she is more reasonable. Number one way guns are stolen is from a car. Plus it is visible. Responsibility , what happens when it is stolen and used to hurt someone? Worse yet, what happens if a juvenile steals it?
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I don't know maybe my marriage is different than what I'm reading about here

I don't confiscate things from my wife. I don't take things from her without her knowing it and sell them. I don't let her "learn her lesson" and I most assuredly do not tell her that "you either do it my way or get single real quick.

That's not how an actual relationship between adults works.

If it was my wife I would explain to her as clearly as I could the risks. I might even ask her to comply with my request or return the gun. But at the end of the day she's an adult and she's responsible for her own decisions.
 
Trunk Monkey said:
I don't know maybe my marriage is different than what I'm reading about here

I don't confiscate things from my wife. I don't take things from her without her knowing it and sell them. I don't let her "learn her lesson" and I most assuredly do not tell her that "you either do it my way or get single real quick.

That's not how an actual relationship between adults works.

If it was my wife I would explain to her as clearly as I could the risks. I might even ask her to comply with my request or return the gun. But at the end of the day she's an adult and she's responsible for her own decisions.
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This a potential life and death situation, also a legal one and the gun was given to her she didn't buy it. Adult so be it, but sometimes the man of the house has to take charge and stand firm on the final decisions. . Advice sorry if it isn't what you want to here. She refuses to be responsible with the gun, take it back until she is. OR talk about it but it seems that hasn't worked out so far.
 
I would like to hear from the OP has to what he has taken away from this discussion. Let this sit until we hear back. If we are not being read, then no use continuing. There were many good suggestions that seem to cover the bases.
 
GEM said:
I would like to hear from the OP has to what he has taken away from this discussion. Let this sit until we hear back. If we are not being read, then no use continuing. There were many good suggestions that seem to cover the bases.
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The OP already responded

Styx said:
Thanks all. I sent her a link to this thread plus the statistics on vehicle firearm theft as well as stats on where criminals get most of the firearms that are used in crimes. She agreed that it was a bad idea, and said she'd carry it or leave it at home.
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Trunk Monkey said:
I don't know maybe my marriage is different than what I'm reading about here

I don't confiscate things from my wife. I don't take things from her without her knowing it and sell them. I don't let her "learn her lesson" and I most assuredly do not tell her that "you either do it my way or get single real quick.

That's not how an actual relationship between adults works.

If it was my wife I would explain to her as clearly as I could the risks. I might even ask her to comply with my request or return the gun. But at the end of the day she's an adult and she's responsible for her own decisions.
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If adult discussions don't mend an issue, positive action often is the only choice to avoid catastrophic consequences. If one of my adult kids headed to the car in a drunken state, do you think I'd just say, "He/she is an adult and responsible for their decisions?"

Not on their life, I wouldn't.

Anyway, the OP is doing what he can. Hopefully.
 
TarDevil said:
If adult discussions don't mend an issue, positive action often is the only choice to avoid catastrophic consequences. If one of my adult kids headed to the car in a drunken state, do you think I'd just say, "He/she is an adult and responsible for their decisions?"

Not on their life, I wouldn't.
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But that's not what we're talking about though is it.
 
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