My wife carries a 2" .38 snubby now, but ammo capacity is an issue. She does not practice reloading like she should, and she is not worried about having only 5 shots, but I guess being surrounded by gun culture, ammo capacity is always an issue in my mind. She likes the revolver (S&W 640) because its easy to use, goes bang when she pulls the trigger, has no safety to get in the way, and has a heavy enough trigger pull that she doesnt worry about not having a safety (I know, finger off the trigger...she is new to guns and still comes up with the "what if" scenarios ) She also thinks its very pretty, which means a lot to her. the 2" .38 does have a hell of a kick for her and she knows it, which is another reason a 9mm may appeal to her more if she can find one she likes. I want her to try a gun with the following features: DA or DAO No external safeties or weird grip safeties 9mm compact or sub compact, but something that will allow at least three fingers on the grip an easy to rack slide <---very important to her and her main reason for avoiding a semi auto Cost isnt an issue, dependability is, its hard to compare a semi auto to a revolver in terms of dependability and she knows it, so if she is going to convert the .38 to a BUG, she wants something that will go bang every time just like the revolver. I can get her to the gun store, but the last thing she wants to do is stand around and handle various guns, so if I could get a list of 4 or 5 semi autos for her to try that would really help.