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I haven't talked to him other than text but he called the other night asking me to hunt with him but I was at the grocery store and mentioned hunting this weekend. If its just He and I, I will start off like this-You guys figure out what your buying the farmer yet? If I get it out of him I will then pull money out of the bank and give it to him and say look I appreciate you letting me hunt out here the last few years and NOT trying to weasel my way in but I would like to contribute to the cause. I am still really worried that him and the others may think that's me trying to buy my way in which its not.
 
Could be that he simply does not want to be obligated. Sometimes feeling obligated becomes a weight.

So, if he says he doesn't want anything I think I would leave it alone.
 
It's obvious to me that he wants you to pay your fair share. Give him the $100. That's real cheap for hunting a good place.

IMO you should have opened your wallet and handed it to him right then. If he didn't want it, he'd tell you when you tried to give it to him.
 
Patocazador said:
It's obvious to me that he wants you to pay your fair share. Give him the $100. That's real cheap for hunting a good place.

IMO you should have opened your wallet and handed it to him right then. If he didn't want it, he'd tell you when you tried to give it to him.
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Would have been kind of hard cause I don't carry cash :). Use a debit card for everything.
 
Well I got it out of him today they are getting the farmer a new gate for his cattle and I asked about cost and he told me so I walked right up to him and said please don't take this the wrong way but I've been hunting out here for the last few years and I would like to help with the gate. He kind of shockingly said oh, okay and didn't say anything afterwards. We walked back to the stands together and I said I'm serious about the gate and he said okay, that's fine it will help offset the cost and said something about its nice to have extra people paying for things but the extra people being out there would make the hunting not so great so they keep it between the 3 of them. I said oh, no I don't mean it that way I just feel you have been nice letting me come hunt with you and so its not so much on you I would like to help if that's okay. I really hope that he didn't take it the wrong way which I'm kinda thinking he did a little bit.
 
gspn said:
I think it's very thoughtful of you to consider the various ways this conversation could take place, and the ways in which those conversations could be viewed. He brought it up in front of you, so I think you'd be just fine saying "Hey man, I'd be happy to pitch in for the stuff you were talking about the other day."

It looks thoughtful, not presumptuous; and it gives him the option to politely accept or decline the offer. I think you'll look like a good dude for offering, rather than like someone trying to insert yourself where you don't belong.
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Went through the same thing. Firstly, I found other ways to pitch in, setting targets, cleaning up debris that my have been left on the property, etc. Then the next time it came up I offered to help financially. That worked for me, since I was caught off guard at first and didn't know what to say. Bought me some time to think it through.

Kudos for your consideration of others.
 
quest4perfection said:
Went through the same thing. Firstly, I found other ways to pitch in, setting targets, cleaning up debris that my have been left on the property, etc. Then the next time it came up I offered to help financially. That worked for me, since I was caught off guard at first and didn't know what to say. Bought me some time to think it through.

Kudos for your consideration of others.
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ive helped the last few year moving stands, lifelines, etc. I don't mind helping at all cause it gets me out of the house and repays him but I kind of felt like a mooch for not offering to help. I still think he kind of took it the wrong way though based on his comment about more people paying means more people hunting and then the hunting will suck. I told him twice that was not my intentions just paying up for the last few years.
 
ohihunter2014 said:
ive helped the last few year moving stands, lifelines, etc. I don't mind helping at all cause it gets me out of the house and repays him but I kind of felt like a mooch for not offering to help. I still think he kind of took it the wrong way though based on his comment about more people paying means more people hunting and then the hunting will suck. I told him twice that was not my intentions just paying up for the last few years.
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All we can do is all we can do. Some things just take time. Your character will carry the day. It is today, I can say.
 
Some of my friends just come down and follow what unwritten “rules” there are. Don’t leave trash, be obnoxious, etc. Others bring food, drink, cook, wash dishes, hop on a tractor and get to work, grab a rake or weed eater. Not that you should try and do everything but make some sort of effort.

Lots of stuff one cad do to make themselves “useful” if they want to. If you want to be in the best of graces, you want to be the guy that is missed when your not there.
 
Well we put the gate up and he advised me of the cost of the gate in which my part came to about $40. I told him that I wanted him to know I wasn't trying to weasel in or anything like that or do I expect anything from pitching in. I did not do it for that reason. He said I know, I know it came from the heart. I think we are all good.
 
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