Hey, it depends on the handgun.
My second handgun was a 7 1/2" Super Blackhawk, like Glock19Fan described. I was so unimpressed by the recoil, I went out and bought a .454 Casull. The long barrel, the weight of the gun make the round a pussycat to shoot. Want even softer recoil? Shoot a 9 1/2" Super Redhawk in .44 Magnum. Feels like a .38 special.
My 4" 629 kicks a bit with full-power loads, but I think a .357 snubbie kicks harder.
Where people get into recoil trouble is when they try to shoot real rounds out of super lightweight revolvers. Yeah, a 19 ounce .44 magnum is going to hurt, one should have known that before one bought it, no whining
Glock19Fan: good show, glad you enjoyed it, they're nothing to be afraid of.