I'd also encourage you to do some reactive drils and force on force before falling into pocket carry as a primary means of carrying a defensive firearm if that is a factor for you. This is another big compromise. I think it has a place, but I think it has a number of short comings that people should be aware of.
I have to wonder sometimes, if any of them ever actually practice drawing and shooting from those pockets. In all the years Ive been shooting at various public and private ranges, I have yet to see anyone do so.
The other thing I find interesting is, how we're often told, that deploying a gun from your pocket, its the fastest draw youre going to see. Funny how that doesnt seem to work, when you start with your hands out of your pockets, and from a "startle" draw.
Carrying a gun is often as much about the means and location of carry than the size of the gun. I can in the same clothing carry a 26 or Kahr P9 and have it print like Gutenberg. By using a different holster and carry location, I can make a G17 disappear in the very same attire. Unfortunately it typically takes buying and experimenting with different holsters and methods of carry to find what works best for each person. Finding a good means of carrying a gun is better than getting a tiny one and sticking it in ones pant pockets IMHO, at least for a primary carry gun anyways.
I feel the same as you. I carry a 17 daily (and more often than not, a 26 as well), in clothes many will tell you, they couldnt possibly carry a 26, or even smaller in.
Pointing it out, usually draws quite a bit of ire from those who choose to do so. Im constantly told you cant possibly carry a full size handgun unless youre wearing a winter parka thats two sizes to big.
If youre serious about carrying, you'll find a way. Its not a buy one holster and live with it the rest of your life sort of thing either. Its an ever evolving, living thing. It takes some time, some work, and some money, until you figure it out. By the time you get there, you'll have learned a lot along the way.
I suppose for many, if not most, the cost of the gun is a burden enough, and then to have to spend as much and sometimes more, just finding a decent holster (the good ones generally aint cheap) that works, and slowly adapting your attire to do the same, wasnt even considered.
Where practice and the ammo to do so realistically fits in, is a whole other story.