Just Jim said:
You sound like a good guy, and it appears that you have given this some serious thought. Frankly, I admire that a lot more than a guy who simply wants to test his hollowpoints.
But I disagree with your last account. Let me explain.
Back in the 1950's, if a guy was accused of rape, his attorney would put the woman on the stand and simply ask what she was wearing. If any part of her desription included something like tight sweaters, short skirts and stiletto heels, the defense raised the point that "she was asking for it."
And it worked. There are guys still alive today who are actually guilty of forcible rape.
The premise of my opinion here is that it really doesn't matter if the guy is wearing all black, a ski mask, and is holding your wide screen TV on the way to moving van.
There is that moment of deliberation in your mind
where the chain of events is yours and only yours.
I know that many guys hate my analogies, but let me offer a fitting one.
A biker is cruising down the highway, and he's late for some event. He reaches into the fob pocket of his jeans and pulls out a pocket watch. The watch slips from his gloved hand and bounces off of his thigh. He glances down to catch the sight of his watch hanging in mid air.
You and I both know the future of that watch. Within milliseconds that aged pocket watch is going to hit the tarmac at a full 80 MPH and nothing--
nothing--is going to save it.
But in that second, the biker
is assured of an event that has not yet happened.
So as you gaze upon the burglar with a pristine custom SW 686 stoked with Federal 125 grain hollowpoints,
and for the moment, with your finger along the side of the trigger guard, what is your view of the future? What do you want that future to hold?
Your thought processes are the important aspects of morality, not some goober ahold of your insured TV.
And your life is also swaying in the balance--along with
everything you will ever be after that singular moment in time.