Ok, I went back and read your other thread. That explains more of the story.
The friend is out of army now. He is a big time drinker and also does other recreational drugs.
If he's a drug user then he's federally prohibited from even touching firearms. Of course, he'd have to be charged and convicted of a crime for that to take effect.
He cusses like a pirate.....every other word is f!!!.
So he's a jerk. That happens. Takes all kinds to make a world, you know? If he can't control his behavior in front of kids, then he should be told by the host to leave. Not a gun issue.
For the birthday party he brought out an AK-47 and M-16. Unloaded but let the kids pretend shooting. He said he did it just for photo shots. When I saw my 4 yr. old grandson behind the AK-47 (REAL. NOT PLAY) my heart skipped a million beats.
Ok, that's really not a serious problem with him. IF the host asked him to do this, or allowed/encouraged it, this is just harmless fun for the kids. As long as he practiced good safety protocols (including the fact that the guns were really unloaded) he didn't harm anyone. You being fearful or outraged or whatever to see your grandson near a firearm is really more of a "you" problem than a problem with the situation.
I've got an adorable picture of one of my boys in a diaper, at about one year old, holding tight to the handles of my chainsaw and pretending to run it with a huge grin on his face. Same thing, exactly.
I am thinking he did not do what he said he did in army.
Not anything we could have advice or opinions about. Doesn't matter at all for the purposes of this discussion.
As children of WW II and Korean War, I never remember my dad and his buddies bringing out artillery when we had family parties.
I'm sorry. That sort of sharing can be a really valuable way of passing on oral history and helping the younger generation understand the sacrifices and honor of their Dads, Uncles, and Grand-dads. Depending on the context, it could be a fantastic thing. If your dad and his buddies couldn't, or wouldn't, share that with you (as many vets were psychologically incapable of doing) that's a big loss for you.
Or, it could be inappropriate. Depends on the situation.
Have times changed so much that now we bring out real artillery at children's birthday parties?
More that times have changed so much that a lot of society freaks out if they see a firearm not in the holster of a police officer, or slung over a hunter's back.
If this guy did bury 6 soldiers a day doesnt he have some kind of code of ethics to go by even when he gets out of the army?
Why would "ethics" have anything to do with show-and-tell at a kid's birthday party? There's nothing unethical about giving some kids a bit of hands-on time with firearms and/or talking to them about guns, wars, history, and service.
There could be something very tone-deaf or even rude about how that happens and startling parents with an unexpected private gun show would be inconsiderate.
But it all depends on who invited him, what was expected, and how safe a situation he maintained.