anyone else in trouble with the wife for spending?
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chuckusaret
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I don't buy many guns but I do spend a lot on ammo. She complains when I buy large lots, anything above 1000 rounds. I do like to stockpile, I like to have at least a 1000 rounds per gun. I do get to the range every month and fire 400 to 500 rounds. Close to 50 to 60 per gun
Zundfolge
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The solution I've found that works best is simply to lie.
Keep in mind that I don't spend money foolishly ... I don't spend money we need for other things.
I just squirrel a little away here and there and then buy something.
Even if I am in the open on a purchase I don't think I've ever told her exactly what something actually cost.
But again, I'm not spending money we need for important stuff.
I have a friend that likes to play the stock market (actually he's addicted to gambling in the stock market ... yes I've told him he should consider a 12 step program). He's got them in debt more than he makes in a year and she has no idea he's doing this. I would not recommend that level of dishonesty with the wife.
Keep in mind that I don't spend money foolishly ... I don't spend money we need for other things.
I just squirrel a little away here and there and then buy something.
Even if I am in the open on a purchase I don't think I've ever told her exactly what something actually cost.
But again, I'm not spending money we need for important stuff.
I have a friend that likes to play the stock market (actually he's addicted to gambling in the stock market ... yes I've told him he should consider a 12 step program). He's got them in debt more than he makes in a year and she has no idea he's doing this. I would not recommend that level of dishonesty with the wife.
Ohio Gun Guy
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mcdonl - "After 15 years of being married, and 20 years living together I have learned ALL the tricks of money laundering and embeslement.... I save cash, hide travel re-imbursements, sell other toys (Toy equity....).... "
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That's great.........ME TOO!
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That's great.........ME TOO!
BrandonBowers
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No wife = no problem.
Of course it has it's own complications, but hey, everything has a drawback.
Of course it has it's own complications, but hey, everything has a drawback.
I joke around that I've been in trouble for years on this, but the reality is that my wife "gets it."
She knows that a lot of my projects MUST operate at an accelerated pace -- just in case.
And she knows that I have a very nice diamond pendant under the tree for her.
-- John
She knows that a lot of my projects MUST operate at an accelerated pace -- just in case.
And she knows that I have a very nice diamond pendant under the tree for her.
-- John
I put every expense I possibly can on credit cards. Of course, I only use cards that pay back 1-3% of purchases. Plus there's the 20/25 day float (for even a tad more pay back). Of course I pay them off every month. With a modicum of self-control, credit cards sure beat cash.
Except for those who can't get credit or lack self-control, I don't know why anyone would use cash, or worse, a debit card.
ScotZ
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We have the YOUR'S,MINE and OUR's plus SAVINGS accounts system.
We both pay into the OUR's account. That account pays all the bills plus our SAVINGS transfer.
We both have jobs and the system has worked great. Vacations are a seperate subject and we agree to do what we can from our YOUR'S and MINE accounts. The YOUR'S and MINE accounts are no questions asked. We have what we have. Its ours to do with what we want. The only real rule is neither of us is ever allowed to dip into the OUR's account for anything personal. We cant even ask
In short....... I have no complaints
We both pay into the OUR's account. That account pays all the bills plus our SAVINGS transfer.
We both have jobs and the system has worked great. Vacations are a seperate subject and we agree to do what we can from our YOUR'S and MINE accounts. The YOUR'S and MINE accounts are no questions asked. We have what we have. Its ours to do with what we want. The only real rule is neither of us is ever allowed to dip into the OUR's account for anything personal. We cant even ask
In short....... I have no complaints
svxapeal
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I am a wife that shares the same love affair for weapons and ammo as my husband. In a year..I spend more on the two than he does. The only way he would get in trouble for his purchases would be to lie to me about it. Maybe we are strange in the fact that we like honesty.
Caryn
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My wife is the best thing that ever happened to me, and has always been very understanding.
That being said, I was laid off over a month ago. With high-tech now gone in this area and no good prospects to make near what I was making in the near future, it goes without saying that unneccessary spending is very limited right now. We had some savings and a decent severance package so we're not destitute, but I've been cleaning out and trying to sell some of the stuff I don't need.
That being said, I was laid off over a month ago. With high-tech now gone in this area and no good prospects to make near what I was making in the near future, it goes without saying that unneccessary spending is very limited right now. We had some savings and a decent severance package so we're not destitute, but I've been cleaning out and trying to sell some of the stuff I don't need.
halfbreed808
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I was in alot of trouble for buying "to many guns." But I bought her a 32" LCD T.V. for christmas. Now everything is just fine... until the next purchase.
...maybe after christmas?
...maybe after christmas?Ridgerunner665
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I been in trouble for first one thing then another since right after the honeymoon...
That said...she knew ahead of time that I spent most of my extra $$$ on firearms and related stuff...Its pretty obvious as soon as you walk in my front door.
We take turns...I buy a gun then she buys a gun...right now its her turn and I been telling her to hurry...but you know how it is with women and shopping...
EDIT: Forgot to mention...she did buy me $1,700 Baer stainless Stinger for our 5th anniversary.
That said...she knew ahead of time that I spent most of my extra $$$ on firearms and related stuff...Its pretty obvious as soon as you walk in my front door.
We take turns...I buy a gun then she buys a gun...right now its her turn and I been telling her to hurry...but you know how it is with women and shopping...
EDIT: Forgot to mention...she did buy me $1,700 Baer stainless Stinger for our 5th anniversary.
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offroaddiver
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I've seen a marriage end because the wife didn't like the guy's spending habits.
My girlfriend (basically engaged gotta get ring) has no problem with me buying anything as long as I have money for other things such as a movie now and then or dinner. I learned from the start just have the money left over to spend time with her and not be in debt so i have to chase the dollar as much.
My girlfriend (basically engaged gotta get ring) has no problem with me buying anything as long as I have money for other things such as a movie now and then or dinner. I learned from the start just have the money left over to spend time with her and not be in debt so i have to chase the dollar as much.
evan price
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I've got a good system.
My paycheques are direct deposited into my checking account. Her paycheques are direct deposited into her checking account. That money goes to pay household bills, mortgage, truck payment, school & day care bill, etc.
We each have a set amount taken from our respective checking accounts and deposited into "our" savings account. That money gets used to pay for special stuff, like vacations, or emergency expenses, or major home-improvement projects.
If I want something for me, I have to earn it myself in my own time. I maintain a slush fund that my wife does not know about. That money is what I use for toys, reloading components, etc. however if there is a need for the family I will drain that fund to pay for it. Such as we put new windows in and that nice Toyota Camry I rebuilt and sold, the whole thing went directly to the windows instead of my slush fund.
Wife opened the CC bill last week and saw a $200 charge from the gun store... WTH??? she asked, I told her I bought powder & primers, and a new red-dot scope to replace the one that broke when the dog knocked over the rifle chasing the cat. Ohh.. OK. But no more of that, was what she said. I pointed to the Charles Penzone bill right underneath the gunshop charge... she said, no more of that, either... I love my wife.
My paycheques are direct deposited into my checking account. Her paycheques are direct deposited into her checking account. That money goes to pay household bills, mortgage, truck payment, school & day care bill, etc.
We each have a set amount taken from our respective checking accounts and deposited into "our" savings account. That money gets used to pay for special stuff, like vacations, or emergency expenses, or major home-improvement projects.
If I want something for me, I have to earn it myself in my own time. I maintain a slush fund that my wife does not know about. That money is what I use for toys, reloading components, etc. however if there is a need for the family I will drain that fund to pay for it. Such as we put new windows in and that nice Toyota Camry I rebuilt and sold, the whole thing went directly to the windows instead of my slush fund.
Wife opened the CC bill last week and saw a $200 charge from the gun store... WTH??? she asked, I told her I bought powder & primers, and a new red-dot scope to replace the one that broke when the dog knocked over the rifle chasing the cat. Ohh.. OK. But no more of that, was what she said. I pointed to the Charles Penzone bill right underneath the gunshop charge... she said, no more of that, either... I love my wife.
jackstinson
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I have no problems.
I normally spend more money on my wife than I do myself....even her trips to Charles Penzone. We get her a new car every 3-4 years and I drive my vehicle for 6-10 years. The whole gun-buying thing is a non-issue for us, we are partners, a team...for 27 years now.
In fact, she normally gets mad at me if I come back from the gun store WITHOUT something. On more than one occasion, she's made me go back to the gun store and buy a new gun. My wife doesn't shoot, but she knows how much I enjoy shooting. It makes her happy that I'm happy. She also knows that I work hard at a side business and I play in a band to make the extra money for our "toys".
I don't spend budgeted money .... and, most importantly, I don't lie to her about buying guns.
And when she opens the diamond bracelet I got her for Christmas, she'll insist that I head over to Vance's on the 26th to buy myself a gun.
I normally spend more money on my wife than I do myself....even her trips to Charles Penzone. We get her a new car every 3-4 years and I drive my vehicle for 6-10 years. The whole gun-buying thing is a non-issue for us, we are partners, a team...for 27 years now.
In fact, she normally gets mad at me if I come back from the gun store WITHOUT something. On more than one occasion, she's made me go back to the gun store and buy a new gun. My wife doesn't shoot, but she knows how much I enjoy shooting. It makes her happy that I'm happy. She also knows that I work hard at a side business and I play in a band to make the extra money for our "toys".
I don't spend budgeted money .... and, most importantly, I don't lie to her about buying guns.
And when she opens the diamond bracelet I got her for Christmas, she'll insist that I head over to Vance's on the 26th to buy myself a gun.
Ben Shepherd
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What wife?
Steve Raacke
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I bought a used AR-15 back during the Clinton Gun Ban for $1,000. My old lady still gets pissed about it sometimes and brings it up from time to time.
yale said:
Do you ever talk about the 3rd pair of white pumps? The purse that cost $300 or the blouse she just had to have??
I ordered a rig from El Paso Saddlery, western floral stamping... It was beautiful. My wife wasn't pleased. Anyway, we went to my parents house and I showed my parents the holster and my mom asked how much I paid for it. In for a penny right? So I told her and she said, "Well, thats less than the purse we (my wife and her) bought last week."
Never heard another peep about that holster or related items again.
Titan6
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To the singles out there just a reminder to marry well and this won't be a problem. If you have to lie to wife then you are just trading one problem for another.
SSN Vet
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A mans got to know....
his limitations!!
Wasn't Clint Eastwood who said that in one of his movies?
his limitations!!
Wasn't Clint Eastwood who said that in one of his movies?
Norinco982lover
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I love my wife. And I have 2 guns. That's all she'll let me say.
CajunBass
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That's exactly the way mine worked out.
I don't recomend it either.
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