update
Well folks, here's the latest.
Yesterday, we went to a semi-local gun store. One with LOTS of inventory, and my wife was in the mood, so we started comparing how different guns felt.
The guy behind the counter began with the Glock product, then the M&P, she tried the Sig, (forget what model, but it was the 9mm, single stack mag) a Kahr, and a I forget what model Kimber it was, but it was a short 1911. They didn't have a mustang.
We were not prepared to spend the time in the range shooting, but she instantly went for the M&P 9mm compact, and every other gun was compared back to it, and each time, the M&P won out on 'feel'.
She didn't even want to consider revolvers. So.... it's amazing how our mental perceptions influence our choices, and while I believe it's a good gun, I really thought that Sig product would give it a run, and I thought the Kahr might be the sleeper due to the slender dimensions.
On a side note, I got to hold that FN 5-7 jewel, and ooooohhhh, I'm in lust.
someday, I gotta have one of those.
If the thread doesn't die, i'll update it as we progress down this path. I just have to remember to go at her pace, not mine, cuz...... It's not about me, its about her.