It's been over a decade since I referred to my wife as my girlfriend. Even still, my wife at the time knew my position on firearms, and trusted me because she knew me and loved me.
I'd have asked her if where I was going would have been a serious issue before we went.
Through the passage of time, my girlfriend-become-wife came to know I'd have a gun on me as sure as my debit card. And we both became just as comfortable with it. So did her family. And friends are fleeting . . .
So I'll leave you with this.
If you carrying your gun isn't yet as comfortable as you carrying your wallet, don't bring it. Just go without it and enjoy the visit in their home. Leave it in your vehicle if that makes you happy.
My family - my extended family - doesn't bat an eye knowing I have a gun on my hip. They accept it as commonplace as the wallet in my pocket.
Contrary to what the popular media would have you believe, gun ownership is mainstream. And its becoming more accepted that Carry Permits/Licenses are mainstream, too.
If you handle it as mainstream, and as commonplace as your wallet, the more those around you will see it the same way.
That's not hyperbole. I know a lot of people in my office who have a PA License to Carry. The majority of them are women. No joke.