niner4tango
Member
Ouch.
Divorce settlements vary by state and I know nothing about Florida. The spousal support part seems extremely high for a 4 year marriage. Normally, a good lawyer can give you some rules of thumb about community property and spousal support for your state.
You need someone who is completely on your side.
Your previous attorney was not on your side. $7000 atty fees - plus you paid her attorney fees (which may be unethical) your attorney was on his own side, not yours. (from your blog)
Go interview a couple of attorneys and find out if your settlement is reasonable for your state. If not, do the math on whether it's worth going back to court.
One other thing. You are going to feel this extraordinary financial burden for a long time. And, she has moved in close to you which could be very dangerous to you. Go see a counselor (psychologist) for a few sessions. The military, especially, has some really good people who can help you through the woods on this. You need to make sure you protect yourself from her, and putting some of this in perspective will help do that.
Good luck. This will end. I know, because I write my last alimony check in 6 days.
Divorce settlements vary by state and I know nothing about Florida. The spousal support part seems extremely high for a 4 year marriage. Normally, a good lawyer can give you some rules of thumb about community property and spousal support for your state.
You need someone who is completely on your side.
Your previous attorney was not on your side. $7000 atty fees - plus you paid her attorney fees (which may be unethical) your attorney was on his own side, not yours. (from your blog)
Go interview a couple of attorneys and find out if your settlement is reasonable for your state. If not, do the math on whether it's worth going back to court.
One other thing. You are going to feel this extraordinary financial burden for a long time. And, she has moved in close to you which could be very dangerous to you. Go see a counselor (psychologist) for a few sessions. The military, especially, has some really good people who can help you through the woods on this. You need to make sure you protect yourself from her, and putting some of this in perspective will help do that.
Good luck. This will end. I know, because I write my last alimony check in 6 days.