TonyDedo
Member
My wife is a wonderful person. She is kind, caring, selfless and has a good heart. If the world was full of people like her, we wouldn’t have a need for locks on our doors.
Unfortunately she is one of the most unaware, sheltered people I’ve ever met.
Just to give you an idea of her mindset, she always leaves the doors to the apartment unlocked when she’s home and routinely forgets to lock the door when she leaves.
She leaves her purse and wallet in plain sight on the front seat of her car overnight, in spite of the fact that we park on a public street in a lower middle class neighborhood and many people walk past our cars every day and night to get to a nearby bus stop.
I’ve bought her several canisters of pepper spray, but I doubt she could tell you where they are.
And when I talk about things like home security or disaster preparation, she goes along with whatever I want to do but I can tell she doesn’t take it seriously (or follow through when I’m not around).
In general she has a blissful ignorance she has of all things “bad” with the world, a combination of never having had anything bad happen to her or anyone she knows, and a “it could never happen to me” attitude.
We’re expecting our first child in August, and she’s going to stay home for the first year or two. I’m thrilled that she’s going to be able to be a full time mother, but honestly I’m terrified for my family’s safety when I’m not around.
Can you suggest any way to in awareness and vigilance in my spouse, and encourage her to take a more active role in protecting herself and our home?
However, I post this with one caveat – I DON’T want to use scare tactics. I’m not going to post every newspaper article about crime in the neighborhood on the fridge, or accost her with local crime statistics, or any of the other stupid ideas I’ve heard. I appreciate any offers to pretend to mug her, but I'll pass. I don’t think scare tactics work, and I think they can cause a lot of damage.
Otherwise, any thoughts?
Unfortunately she is one of the most unaware, sheltered people I’ve ever met.
Just to give you an idea of her mindset, she always leaves the doors to the apartment unlocked when she’s home and routinely forgets to lock the door when she leaves.
She leaves her purse and wallet in plain sight on the front seat of her car overnight, in spite of the fact that we park on a public street in a lower middle class neighborhood and many people walk past our cars every day and night to get to a nearby bus stop.
I’ve bought her several canisters of pepper spray, but I doubt she could tell you where they are.
And when I talk about things like home security or disaster preparation, she goes along with whatever I want to do but I can tell she doesn’t take it seriously (or follow through when I’m not around).
In general she has a blissful ignorance she has of all things “bad” with the world, a combination of never having had anything bad happen to her or anyone she knows, and a “it could never happen to me” attitude.
We’re expecting our first child in August, and she’s going to stay home for the first year or two. I’m thrilled that she’s going to be able to be a full time mother, but honestly I’m terrified for my family’s safety when I’m not around.
Can you suggest any way to in awareness and vigilance in my spouse, and encourage her to take a more active role in protecting herself and our home?
However, I post this with one caveat – I DON’T want to use scare tactics. I’m not going to post every newspaper article about crime in the neighborhood on the fridge, or accost her with local crime statistics, or any of the other stupid ideas I’ve heard. I appreciate any offers to pretend to mug her, but I'll pass. I don’t think scare tactics work, and I think they can cause a lot of damage.
Otherwise, any thoughts?