I understood. Since you are stuck with .358, you have to try to match it to the firearms you have. That is why I asked what size the throats were on the revolver, and what the groove diameter was on your rifle.
I have three old books on casting bullets. (Before the internet got rolling when we had to buy books) They have a ton of info in them and it is where I learned much of what I quote from memory when posting. (Although going from memory can get me in trouble sometimes) I also read G&A every month going straight to the reloading section first. Got Handloader mag for a few years as well.
In my "Bullet Making Annual Vol 1" I have a note I wrote with a BHN to pressure chart. (CUP)
5 BHN = 7110 Yield Strength
6 BHN = 8532 Yield Strength
7 BHN = 9954 Yield Strength
8 BHN = 11,376 Yield Strength
9 BHN = 12,798 Yield Strength
10 BHN = 14,220 Yield Strength
11 BHN = 15,642 Yield Strength
12 BHN = 17,064 Yield Strength
13 BHN = 18,486 Yield Strength
14 BHN = 19,908 Yield Strength
15 BHN = 21,330 Yield Strength
16 BHN = 22,752 Yield Strength
I have seen other charts, but like this one.
One thing to remember is that while the bullet needs to obturate to seal things, the yield strength does not need to be almost as high as the pressure used. It can be a good deal lower. As long as the yield strength is lower than the pressure, it can obturate and seal the throats/bore. Now all we have to worry about is if the bullet is strong enough to hold the rifling at the velocity it will be shot at. BHN doesn't equate directly to that type of strength. Yes, the higher BHN will hold rifling better, but alloy also plays a role in how well it holds the rifling.
So, a low enough BHN to obturate with the pressure we are generating, and high enough combination of BHN/alloy strength to hold the rifling at the velocity we will be shooting.
And of course we need enough lube and a proper lube, naturally.
The three main things we need in a lead bullet
# 1 - Sized properly
# 2 - Proper BHN/Strength
# 3 - Proper lube, and enough of it.
If the bullets are undersized a tad, we might get by with a soft enough bullet to bump up and seal things. If they are undersized a hair and too hard to obturate properly, they will lead a lot, and probably severly.
Some of the good news is many guns have properly sized bores, and throats reasonably well suited to lead bullets. You can always ream under sized throats to the right size, but oversized throats are tough to deal with. If they are way to big, we are mostly out of luck, but again, the good news is that most are OK.