First off, I don't shoot competitively, so I have no reasonable purpose to squeeze .3" of an inch increased accuracy for my shooting needs. And although optimal accuracy is extremely important to me, small sacrifices are acceptable for my primary purpose, which is long range hunting needs.
Now regarding handgun, and even considering that all I load and shoot is full house jacketed loads, I have not found a viable reason to concern myself with matching head stamps. I do notice that some brass will show a little bit more / less pressure sign, and even over the chrony. But nothing indicates it's a safety concern, or self defense issue.
But when it concerns bottle neck cartridges, it's a completely different story. I do sort by weight and head stamp all bottle neck cartridges. I perform separate load developments for each as well, and with obvious justification, across the chrony, when reading pressure signs on the brass and bolt lift, and definitely when comparing accuracy.
I almost learned a lesson the hard way years ago, that was actually a close call, IMO. I was loading mixed head stamps for a full throttle load with a 130 gr. bullet in .270 win. for an up coming antelope hunt. I had previously worked up a load using new Winchester brass, but I already had a bunch of mixed head stamps ready to load, already trimmed the same, and primed. So for the sake of convenience, and not thinking much about it, I grabbed a bunch of it and loaded them. Oh, and the oal I had worked up previously had the bullets touching the lands, one more factor that played a part in pressures.
While grouping these on paper at 100 yds. I was paying attention to bolt lift, chrony numbers, primer appearance CCI-250's, and watching for extractor button transfer marks on the case heads. All was going well, though I noticed some minor variations in all of the above, except transfer marks on the case heads was nil, so I knew I was probably fine. Then I fired this one round, and the chrony indicated over 3200 fps, which was no less than a 60 or 70 fps gain over all others thus far. When I tried to open the bolt it was almost locked closed, though I was able to open it, it was extremely stiff. When i got the brass extracted I found a very deep button transfer circle on the case head, the primer flow was completely over the edge of the pocket, flush with the case head, top hat, amazingly though, the primer didn't pierce. the culprit, and I confirmed it when I got home, was that piece of brass had significantly less volume than the others I had fired. I think it was either PMC, or maybe Frontier, but it was without doubt the cause.
I proceeded to work up a separate load using that heavy brass, and the load maxed out at a good .5 grs. less than the previous load, if memory serves me well.
So ya, using brass of similar weight / volume is very important when loading high pressure bottle neck loads. Like I said though, I haven't felt the need to worry much about it with handgun brass, at least not yet. Sure hope I don't ever regret it.
GS