OT: How to meet girls who like guns?

[Hellbore]

I am a 26 year old single male. I was talking to my Dad today (who shares my love of guns) and my Mom overheard that I was buying a Ruger Redhawk.

Now, my mother is a liberal Democrat who hates guns. She says "oh great, buying more guns, just what you need, more things to keep the girls away". She is frustrated that I'm still single.

Nevermind the illogic of her complaint... The point is, I am worried. Is she right about girls universally disliking guns?

I have to confess, almost all the girls I know or have ever met disliked guns. They either feared them or were outright anti-gun.

Throughout their marriage, my mother and father have always been divided when it came to guns. She complained and nagged him any time he bought a gun, and he tried to make her understand. She never listened. To this day she believes that we should not be allowed to own guns in this country.

I do not want to end up like this. How am I supposed to meet girls who think the same way as I do about guns?

Meeting girls through church has worked OK so far because you meet girls who, for the most part, have the same beliefs as you. However, no religion I know of expressly is pro-gun ownership. I know my church has no official stand on the issue.

Any ideas? I just can't seem to meet girls who like guns...

 

[Parallax]

Find a girl who's an anti-gunner, and convert her

 

[Oleg Volk]

I recently chatted up two girls, both from Harbin, who had no exposure to guns. One was afraid of them but decided to learn once she found out that many men wouldn't consider a woman incapable of fending for herself or her kids. One had no prior opinion, didn't know a cartridge when she saw one, but was of "when in US, do as Americans do" mindset.

US attitudes vary by region, generally pro-gun in the South and West, mostly anti elsewhere...in both men and women. I found that I don't as much meet women who are progun as I meet reasonable, interesting people in general and they usually turn out to be neutral or pro-RKBA. You would be VERY surprised to learn who turned out to be pro, given existing stereotypes.

So I would view being a gunnie as no detriment to dating at all.

 

[pax]

Get out of the city, and if you live on the east coast, move west.

Not all country girls are into guns, but at least you won't be working against her entire culture & upbringing if you try to convert a country girl into enjoying firearms.

pax

 

[fredcwdoc]

When I was dating my wife, she had no love for firearms. After we were married for several years and I started taking my daughters to the range she gave in one day and went with us. The rest is history. She shoots, my two daughters shoot, I work with several women who hunt, fish, and shoot. There out there. Just keep looking.

 

[esheato]

Spend a lot of time at the range....until then, get a dog.

Actually, I'm in the same situation as you. Twenty-eight and single with nothing on the horizon. My Mom is waiting on kids. Hell, I have to find a wife first.

Besides, it's really hard when you don't go anywhere besides gun stores, gun shows and a few ranges to practice.

Some day my little gun bunny will come along... and I'll have car payments and mortgages and children to pay for....in the meantime I'm shooting as much as I possibly can.

Ed

 

[Hellbore]

LOL... I do have a good dog at least. Name's Buddy, and until I find a girl who likes hiking, shooting, and other outdoors stuff, he'll have to do for company:



Also my dog's mom just had puppies, they are like 2 days old:



He's a great dog, but I have to say, a girl has certain charms that no dog can compete with

 

[thorn726]

ok heres a ridiculous way .

tribe.net

there are lots of gun tribes, local and wide range, good way to find people who are into stuff

 

[arcticap]

Join clubs

I have been coaching my oldest son now 17 in Jr. Position Rifle shooting since he was about 10 years old. I always believed that one of the fringe benefits for him to look forward to from learning how to shoot competition was that it is very much a coed sport and at the very least, if he continued to participate as an adult, it would provide a social outlet. There are many young females who participate in position rifle right along side the boys in a highly urban area. It is an activity that involves a minority of youths, unless a town has a high school shooting team, but it continues into college age for many. Their love of guns does not end with school age, just like with the boys. They are just farther and fewer of them it seems. But if a girl's father likes hunting, or guns, those skills and affections are often transferred and ingrained upon their psyche. In some small way, that respect for their father will be transferred to you if you are fortunate to meet the right lady, which you will eventually, I'll bet the bank! I shoot trap at several clubs open to the public, am involved in a .22 bullseye shooting league, NRA air pistol shooting, muzzle loading, plate shooting and other gun clubs & activities. You need to find these kinds of organized activities to join and participate in on a regular basis, meet older shooters who have daughters who may not be as active in shooting, and get to know them. That's how you get referrals. Also, don't stop mentioning hunting, guns and shooting with ladies at work or in mixed conversation. You may be suprised to find out that a young lady may mention how she shot a 10 pointer with her dad when she was 15 years old, etc. and then you will have something of common interest to discuss and explore more about later. Once a lady knows your interests, she'll at least pick up on your interest and respond as a topic of conversation if she is vying for your attention. I hope this starts you thinking about getting more involved in various organized shooting activities and clubs. Meeting a father could be the first step to being introduced to his daughter...

 

[esheato]

Hellbore,

Quick! Take that puppy to the range and start shooting next to the cutest girl you can find. Nevermind her boyfriend, that puppy'll win her over with the quickness.



Ed

 

[Justin]

No, not all girls are antigun. In fact in my experience, you're about as likely to meet one that is neutral or slightly leaning pro than an outright gun bigot. But then again, I grew up in the midwest and now reside in the west.

While not all girls are anti-gun, don't limit yourself to only girls who are as enthusiastic about guns as you are. That will surely cut your pool of potential girlfriends down to around zero.

If you meet a girl, mention that you do recreational shooting, and leave it at that. If she flips out, it wasn't meant to be. If she's cool with it, she's passed the litmus test.

(Speaking from experience.)

 

[Ukraine Train]

In my opinion, finding a girl that actually likes guns is real tough and it's the last thing I worry about when meeting one. I've yet to date one that likes guns but a few of my female friends have expressed interest in learning to shoot and I've gotten a couple to the range so far. I've been content with girls that at least tolerate my obsess.. err hobby. The girl I'm now dating is "afraid" of guns and refuses a range trip but she's fine with me carrying when we're out. I think she thinks I'm paranoid, though lol

 

[M67]

You mean you have never been approached by attractive girls who have asked you if you can take them to the range?

You must be living in the wrong country.

Yes, I really have experienced this a few times. It doesn't usually go much beyond a couple of range trips, but I suspect that's a personality thing, not a gun thing. (And the fact that they might be genuinly interested in shooting, not necessarily the shooter.)

Seriously, I can't really remember any negative reactions concerning my sport. Reactions can range from degrees of interest to polite disinterest, as if I'd said I like to play the accordion or collect 19th century sewing machines. But not a negative response like you guys describe. Except maybe once, and this isn't a joke - she was American...

 

[Gifted]

And you think you have problems

 

[Sean Smith]

Actually, that's one thing I *haven't* really had trouble with the last few years. Of course, I'm in Texas.

 

[LeonCarr]

Try the Second Amendment Sisters - www.2asisters.org

Maybe some of them are single .

Just my .02,
LeonCarr

 

[El Tejon]

Start hanging out with Skunk.

 

[Jim PHL]

When you get that new Red Hawk go wave it around at the local singles bar on ladies night. Make sure all the cuties see it and ask "What do you think?" You may have to try this a several bars before you get a positive response. We'll watch the news to see how you did!

 

[MikeIsaj]

I think if you look for a girl who likes guns your search is too narrow. I am happily married for 24 years to a woman who doesn't share my level of interest but does enjoy a shooting date now and then, and tolerates my interest. I think that's the most you can hope for, any more is a bonus.

You should think more along the line of what kind of girl could be interested in guns. Guns are a guy thing. Guns aren't something a young girl is normally exposed to so, I suspect there are a lot of women out there that may be bitten by the gun bug if they ever encounter one.

I guess I'd start with girls who like other guy things, we used to call them tomboys. Also look for women like my wife, educated, independent, strong willed. Here's where you have to decide on what type of woman you want in your life. My wife doesn't wait on me and serve me. We do however, share a lot of common interests, including to some degree, guns.

Good luck.

 

[TallPine]

Enjoy your dog

It's way better to be single than in a bad relationship.

Besides, you won't be able to buy new Redhawks when you have a wife and family to support.

 

[Control Group]

What other people have said: all you really need is a girl who's willing to accept - perhaps even just tolerate - your hobby.

Besides, you'll never find anyone if you worry about everything that could be wrong with her before you meet her. It doesn't really matter if she likes guns before your first date, does it? That's what dating's for, after all, to find out whose "goods" outweigh her "bads." Even if you meet someone who's solidly anti, it's possible that she'll think you're worth the disagreement.

I'm dating a Democrat (albeit one of the rational ones, not one of the flaming emotional diatribe ones), but we both just accept that we disagree on some things.

(Of course, when I discovered the gun hobby, I also discovered she's been going to the range longer than I have, but that's a different topic entirely)

 

[SamlautRanger]

Move to Pailin Province in Cambodia where I am. All the girls grew up Khmer Rouge and around guns and it is just a part of life. (plus the fattest ones are only 120 pounds!! and even the girls that work at the gas station and convience stores are fine!! no 300 pound walmart boars with mullets!!)

 

[Nortonics]

Any ideas? I just can't seem to meet girls who like guns...

Look for body piercings, or tattoos, or both. If she is fond of riding Harley's that's a good sign too. If she owns her own Harley that's even better... Let's see, a Bass boat, big truck, small sportscar, ...

You gettin' the idea yet? :banghead:

 

[armoredman]

Sounds stupid but - see who somes into the range. Last time at the indoor range, there seemed to be more female shooters than males!
Dating services sound like the weirdest, dumbest, horrible waste of money....I met my wife through one many moons agao, and she loves the range....CCW CZ75 2075 9mm, HDR Yugo SKS....etc

 

[mfree]

*shrug*

Only woman I've ever been friends with or dated who *didn't* "like" guns (though plenty of them could care less) was my recent ex, who was from Boston and vehemently anti.

I took her shooting one day, because she was entertaining the idea of being a security guard. Didn't hear much else about it, but then, she was the kind of person who could never, ever admit she was wrong. Good riddens

BTW, I've got several other friends from the NE corridor who also aren't anti, so there are choices around there too, and not just down here in the south.