I've been through the j-frame phase (six counts, from steel to alloy to Scandium).
Then I bought a Kahr PM9, which has been my constant companion for about two years. It is in my pocket as I type this.
I bought and sold a P-11 recently. I like the mag capacity but the width is noticeably larger than the PM9 and the trigger was, well, let's just say I am spoiled by the PM9's trigger. The reliability of my P-11 was sub-optimal as well.
After all I've read about P3ATs, I was almost afraid to buy one. I figured I'd love it so much that I'd sell everything else and carry that .380 everywhere. Well, I've owned two P3ATs, and the bloom is off that rose. I've have had to work on both extensively. One is now fairly trustworthy, one is still a work in progress. (FWIW, Kel-Tec's CS is great, and I've called them often.) They are
not pleasant to shoot and do not encourage practice. I have carried it, but only occasionally and with no great degree of enthusiasm or confidence.
I bought and sold my barely-used KT P-11 (stainless sllide) for $225.
I paid $500 for the PM9 (used, stainless slide, night sights). Kahr also makes a CW9 that I have seen new for ~$439, and I narrowly missed a slightly used one for $300. The CW9 holds one more round (7+1) and is just slighly larger, maybe 3/8" longer grip and 1/4" longer barrel. For the larger hand, that might be just about perfect.
This is a good size comparison resource:
http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=171820