"some pros, cons, preferences, to the different grain size bullet I could pick from to reload. The main ones I am debating between are 180 vs 185 vs 200 vs 230."
What your uses are will influence your need/s.
For 'work', requirement may state 'Jacketed'. For playing, the most inexpensive may be the ticket.
What counts!
The finished round MUST feed and MUST be safe! If these two criteria are not met, fix it before you continue.
Now to the point.
Round nose (most are not actually round but are rounded) generally feed the best in all weapons (I'm talking about standard 1911 types and the new/er replacement types).
SWC, semi wad cutter, cut targets cleaner, are or can be softer on the shooter/weapon and in general some what better accuracy.
Hollow pointed bullets are to transfer energies better.
Bullet weights. Heavy is slower. Lighter is faster. Yes, upping the charge will push that 230 grain bullet fast. It also ups the recoil and slows follow up shots. (I have never been able to get the best accuracy with heavy loaded 230 ball.)
Everyone has or will have an opinion and that is good. So here is mine. I have loaded 230 full patched bullets and was not excited with them. I have cast and loaded 225 lead round nose, they feed very well. Other than that, just OK. I have loaded 185 grain JHC to impressive velocities but not accuracy. I prefer lead 200 grain SWC. They are easy on the weapon and me. Accuracy is better than others. Energy transfer with the flatter/softer nose is very good. AND they are cheaper!
I load 5.6 grains of 231 under 200 lead SWCs with standard LP primers, any brass and get, depending on the weapon, 860 FPS to 890 FPS from a 5 inch barrel. No leading, clean loads. These are (depending upon your loading data source) on the warm side. They work and have worked for me for the last 35 or so years. I was using Olin 230 before 231 came out.
Determine what you need, what you want and what your weapon/s will best utilize and go for it.