Thank yous and THR
Firstly, thank you - to everyone for condolences. It's been a couple weeks, but sometimes I still sit here, and it feels funny, like a dream. It's harder on my mom.
I'm trying REALLY hard to take the high road, like I think I should, and not go into a screaming fit. I just got the accident report a couple of days ago, and confirm that the person who hit my father has a WI driver's license, despite the fact that his ID card that the county sheriff has on the report is merely a consular ID card from the Mexican consulate in Chicago. Apparently our state will issue a DL with just a consular ID card. Then, there's the matter of the (presumed) liable party having no insurance. I'm thankful, yet again, that my father was smart enough to cover himself against that. Then the words, "Alcohol found on scene" in the report. The tox-screen from the coroner isn't done yet, or at least I don't have it. I thought all that wasn't really important, earlier, but in retrospect, it hardens my anger with those in our country illegally, and who choose to do stupid things. I'm seriously considering getting some actual face time with my representative over the process of issuing a DL without proof of citizenship/something. Would it really matter, if those who are criminally inclined choose to break the law anyway? Probably not, but I can try. ...I don't really want to degenerate into a political rant here.
Mostly, I miss him. If I'd known, I'd have come home from college the weekend before, and tried to make it the best time I could have. I only live 40 minutes away, and don't really have an excuse. My grandmother had a plane ticket to come visit, and she ended up coming to a funeral (driving) instead, with his sister. I'm happy there was nothing bad between us at the end - no yelling at each other, hateful words, or anything else. It doesn't mean we saw eye to eye on everything, but who does? He still loved me in spite of any disagreements. If you do anything, make a note - our time is short, and our lives easily snuffed out. Be gentle with those you care about, and let them know often that you love them, for today may be your last together.