Find out from S&W the weight of the stock spring. You could safely go lower if you know what it is. Stock is probably 20-22, though I've seen as high as 24 in a commander. if 22 try 20. If 20, try 18 and with both, monitor the ejection distance. Also, with new springs in a commander, be sure to check for spring binding when installed. Might be good to check that with your stock spring!
I used 16lb (full size govt spring, length cut down to eliminate binding) with a 23 lb hammer spring. (Edit: with a flat bottom firing pin stop)
Cycled very nicely and ejection was mild-- only about 4-6 ft. Racking was not excessively hard to do. Important to know the hammer spring weight, too! Ask s&w!