which might or might not arguably be a good thing.
I am somewhat ambivalent about the DV thing.
People who abuse those close to them maybe should be screened out as gun owners. But, at present, the screening seems to screen out as many people who probably should not be as should be which suggests that the mechanism in use has serious flaws.
You are right.
And zoogster said it very well in the post above mine.
DV reasonable until you find out what constitutes a DV in your area.
I went through this, almost had my gun rights removed for life.
I must be some abusive A-hole, right?
I was 18 and my little brother was 13. I wouldn't let him use the computer, so he called 911 and said I was "fighting" with him. Never touched him.
I bailed. Had I been home when the sheriff arrived I WOULD have been arrested, as it is mandatory to arrest someone in a DV call. I WOULD have lost my firearm rights for life, as an arrest is all that is needed to have a record of DV, and its the state who decides to prosecute, not the accuser. Luckily the sheriff got the whole story out of my bro and called me in to give a statement, then dropped the charges, supposedly like it never happened, total nonsense is what he called it.
Now, 15 years later, because that is still floating around somewhere, I get delayed for any firearm transfer that I don't use my concealed permit to expedite. With my permit, its a call to the FBI and I'm out the door. Without, and it gets routed through the local PD and gets me delayed every single time. Last time I did a transfer without my permit, (renewing at the time) the shop I did it through had to chew out the local PD and tell them about recent transfers I had made with my permit that had gone right through, before The pd would approve the transfer, and when I went down to find out why, I was told I still had that B.S. DV thing on my record somehow, even though charges were never filed.
I have an older friend, a distinguished veteran, who can no longer own firearms in this state for life because his ex lied on record and claimed he threatened her life. Never saw a police officer. Never was arrested. There was never an actual incident on record that police responded to. No 911 calls.
This was weeks after his last contact with her. Never touched her. It is my friends mom and even my friend says she is doing it all out of spite and she has no proof and major issues. It's basically ruined his life, and he is moving out of state at great expense to himself at a time in his life when he should be retiring and enjoying what his hard work and service to his country should have earned him.
It ain't always like you think. I am not a lawyer, but There is a reason you should avoid calling the cops unless absolutely necessary, particularly with family. If 911 gets called on a DV situation, someone is going to jail even if everyone involved is amicable when the police arrive.
To my knowledge, in my state ANY dispute with family with any level of violence, even if its non-injurious or damages are strictly property related its DV in the eyes of the law. You can't even break your OWN stuff if someone gets scared and calls the cops while you are doing it.
The brush is unacceptably broad IMO, and the system too easy to manipulate by people illegitimately playing the "victim".