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Something not generally taught in self defense courses

Discussion in 'Strategies, Tactics and Training' started by boom boom, Oct 5, 2019.

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    During my CCW class, the instructor advised that, if someone does the wrong thing and then blames you, it's best to beg his forgiveness as if you were the offender. Your dignity and your property don't matter. You life and health do. It's better to grovel than to fight.
     
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    A soft answer turneth away wrath, it is said.
     
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    I've had occasion to gain the friendship of several men, mostly veterans, who have had deep experience with violence. An almost universal characteristic these men display is an unfailing courtesy. An observer who didn't know them would almost always mistake them for the mildest man in the room, and in some respects those observers would be correct because they're only dangerous in the face of injustice.
     
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    As a combat Veteran, although I never thought about it before; that was really well stated.
     
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    It is true, however it is also true that the squeeky wheel often gets the greese and gives the impression their view is a strong one and shapes what becomes the norms and values of society. If you are always docile and back down from things you will certainly avoid many problems including those which are violent, but society will become more and more what those that are loud and bold make it become.
    You hand society over to those that state their views proudly and take others on over them.

    So it is often good for the individual, but not necessarily for the society you hand over to the next generation.
     
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    OTOH, the squeaky wheel often gets 'greased'......
     
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    My father's step father was a kindly man I knew as "Papa," the man who fed cookies to the dog with me . He was one of the best men I ever knew. He was courteous, polite and the epitome of the gentleman. After his death, we were going through his things and my young eyes had never seen so many medals. Turns out that during WWI he raised holy Hell against the Kaiser. His example taught me that just because you could beat a man senseless, you didn't HAVE to and there were sometimes more civilized ways to deal with miscreants.

    Its on Youtube now, and I highly recommend Doc Thompson' verbal judo course.
     
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    Marital verbal judo: "Yes, Dear."
     
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    Better to live a short life of truth than a long life always telling white lies. Lies, even those done to keep the peace, are wrong. Lies backfire and are found out, every single time. One lie like that and you will become a victim of that person often.
     
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    Its relatively easy to avoid conflict. One can be humble without groveling.

    Dont mistake the kindness for weakness.

    Be nice, until it's time to not be nice.


    I think true practitioners of SD understand these things but most never have to put them to the test. That's a good thing but having the mindset will certainly aid the few that do.
     
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    "Some men spend their whole lives putting the beast back into the box. Do not be the man who causes it to be released once again."
     
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