Well folks, you're doing your best, we we're going to have to agree to disagree on this one. I'll offer one last response. If you still don't appreciate my point of view, feel free to come join us at TSA in Surry, VA; I'll be there from 1 to 8 May doing advanced training and finishing my instructor training.
I am curious as to what the purpose of dry fire is to you.
My perspective is dry fire is a muscle memory drill. It is used to counteract flinch and jerk by giving the shooter the opportunity to go through the motions without the recoil and muzzle blast; things which lead to flinch and jerk. Ostensibly the shooter learns to control the weapon without recoil/muzzle blast by dry firing, and then is not bothered by it when live firing.
One of the best ways to learn trigger control is to slowly(and I mean slowly) pull the trigger and watch those sights intently. You can see where you jerk or push the gun. This is how I usually teach people to shoot. It makes them realize how their trigger pull affects the gun throughout the trigger travel. It also teaches followthrough.
I was originally taught using the very principles you describe; crap in my opinion. I went back and relearned to shoot without sights, without slow steady squeeze, without natural pause in respiration, etc., etc. It requires a change in mindset, one which most shooters are unable or unwilling to make. But once I did, my shooting dramatically improved.
You must have a lot of will to do something for 17 years that you get nothing out of.
Trust me, there are a great many of us trying to change the system. Problem is the system as it is was developed by guys who preach the very same techniques you have, and which many of us agree are not in the best interest of combat shooters. Guys like Pat Rogers are working hard to make valuable improvements (not necessarily my improvements, but improvements nonetheless), but you can't change things overnight.
You have a sighted in gun that puts rounds where the sights point when the trigger is pulled. That is the whole point of calling one's shots.
You are still making assumptions. Did you flinch? Did you jerk the trigger? You're focusing on the sights, so are the sights correctly on the target? What if you can't see your sights?
Looking for the laser's dot trains you to look for visual confirmation of the hit (the "hole"). That is not the way to shoot fast.
First your assuming that I'm looking for the dot, which in this case is more often true, 'cause that's how I train, and it works for me. Second, use of the laser does not require you to target focus if you don't want to, which is what I clearly pointed out earlier. Also, I want to be fast and accurate, not just fast. If you don't check your target, then you may have been fast, but how do you know you were accurate? Your way of shooting fast is not my way, nor the way of others I train with, so believe whatever you like about what is fast and what isn't.