When and how did your significant other find out about your guns?

[ccw007]

I was posting on another forum and it got me to thinking about a story so I thought I was ask this since I do not recall this being asked like this before.

When and how did your significant other find out about your guns?

My now wife was out on our first date. We were at my house for some reason and the phone rang. Oh I remember I think we had eaten Mexican and it sends me to the bathroom... oh and I do not do public restrooms . It was the alarm company from my office on the phone. The alarm had gone off and they had sent the police. I told them I was on my way. We had met at my house so her car was there. I looked at her and said I have got to go. I seen this hurt look in her eyes and I knew she thought I was trying to ditch her. I said you can go with me, but this is not a good part of town. She said she wanted to go. I told her fine I will be right back. I had permission to carry at work and I was not going to this area at night without a gun. I went to my room and got my gun. When I came out here eyes got big and she said why do you have that. I told her it is not a good area and it is downright spooky at night. When we got there she seen why I had my gun. It was a false alarm, but man was that a spooky place at night.

 

[Legionnaire]

My wife and her dad gave me my first firearm! A Mossberg 500 12 gauge with a 26" vent rib barrel and a 24" slug barrel. So she knew about it before I did!

 

[dakotasin]

my present wife found out about firearms on our first date - on the way to a dance, i stopped at the gun shop before they closed so i could pick up a rifle.

never even occured to me that it would be abig deal to some, and it wasn't to her. she elected to wait in the car, i got the rifle, and off we went.

 

[TomN]

I told her on our 3rd date. We were in the car and I casually mentioned to her that I had a carry license and that I had my pistol on the car. This was so she couldn't run away you see!

We've been married for 14 years and even though she's never acquired an interest in shooting, she has never had any issues with the fact that I'm a certified gun nut.

 

[Baldy]

Wife & Guns

Well the first time I took her to the range she had fired a 22 rifle once when she was about 14 yrs. old. We started out shooting some 22 Pistols & Revolvers I had and she liked it. About 2 weeks later she bought me a new 6" Colt Phyton. Man I was Happy for sure. She started to eye ball a little 32 Mauser so I got it for her as Her first gun. That was 28 yrs ago and we still got both guns and we shoot them on a regular bases. Oh now she shoots a 45 S&W thats hers. Word around here is don't mess with Mamma as she can shoot the ten ring out at 25 to 30 feet, no problem. She shoots everything I got and most of it better than me.:banghead.:banghead:

Shoot fast make one Hole...

 

[22-rimfire]

I actually met my X out shooting. She still has that gun I was shooting that day, sob. Hope she shoots that Diamondback every now and then. My wife hates guns and dislikes my interest in them. She kniew pretty quickly during the dating process that I was interested in firearms also.

 

[Quo Vadis]

Them "others"

When and how did your significant other find out about your guns?

I do not have a -significant other- I be married to VIP Miss P the VP and she gave me on me birthday a Browning Auto-5, we had much fun blowing away watermelons.

 

[robert garner]

The gun was a given; the rifles and pistols caused only mild consternation

 

[Limeyfellow]

My wife had more firearms than I did, I coming from England and she having her own arsenal. I gained a wife and more importantly a nice firearm selection.

 

[scooterthegreat]

I was raised on a .22 and 410, but never actually owned my own gun. After a few job changes, my boss got me interested in getting back into hunting and he wanted to take me turkey hunting and possibly deer hunting. My husband at the time, now my ex, said that if I bought a gun he would not allow me to keep it in the house. That really surprized me as he was also raised with a .22 and 410. Anyway - I borrowed a gun. Had a great time. Didn't get a deer, didn't get a turkey, but I sure did learn a lot.

At that time I had been married for a little over 8 years and him "forbidding" a gun in the house was the first step down the road to divorce.

About a year later I filed and moved out. I met a great guy about 2 weeks after moving out. Had to explain to him that my divorce was not final and for all practical purposes was still married, but there was not a snowballs chance in hades that I was going back. He was ok with that. (We have been together ever since - almost 9 years)

Well, apparently I did much better preparing my budget for the move and had some cash left over. The boyfriend and I had only been together for about three weeks and I asked him what he thought of me getting a gun of some sort. Well he just got all excited. He helped me decide and shop. A week later I came home with my Remmington 870 express.

Four years ago he bought me a marlin bolt action .22 for Valentines day. I bought him a 10/22 for Christmas two years ago. Between the two of us we have 3 .22s (2 are his), 3 shotguns (2 are mine), 2 rifles (both are mine), and 3 handguns (2 are his). He reloads shotgun, I'm starting to reload handgun. We have a blast. (I'll forego the list of fishing rods, reels, etc...)

I have never been happier in my life!!!!!

 

[2TransAms]

I met my wife through mutual friends,so she knew all about me before we even met. She knew I had guns and she didn't care,but she grossly misunderestimated my obsession with them.

 

[Hypnogator]

On one of our first dates, I took her to watch me at a trap tournament. Once after that, she asked why I needed so many guns. I asked her why a golfer needed more than one or two clubs. She started to answer, "Because they do different things.... Oh!" She now owns a Mini-30 for deer hunting and an 1100 trap gun for trapshooting.

BTW, she took 3rd in trap in the women's division at the first international collegiate trap and skeet competition, back in 1969.

 

[Rock45]

My wife and I made the "transition" together in late 2001...from a "gun free" zone to the more desireable "Freedom Zone" we live in now. ( I have always had a shotgun in the house, the one my father left me)

Bryan

 

[Baba Louie]

When we were in High School, the girl I was dating (eventually to marry, later divorce) and I were down in my basement where Dad's gunmith bench with anywhere from 20 - 30 various firearms in stages of repair/disrepair was, as well as ping-pong table, TV etc. we discussed firearms as well as other things that 17 year olds discuss and do... like playing ping-pong, bird hunting, etc.

Her Dad had several rifles and shotguns as well as an Irish Setter who pointed, flushed and retreived quail and pheasant.
Just a part of life back then, I think. (for you youngsters this was the early 70's in Independence MO)

Later (after the divorce) G/F's were always told upfront. Both of them had firearms and had been raised around them. I'm surprised when I meet men who claim their better halves have issues with guns. Just about every woman I've dealt with at work or school over the years has an interest in some type of firearm, hunting, shooting or defense of self.

Maybe I've been lucky. Maybe they were all brought up right by their parents as well.

 

[Onmilo]

Mine found out when she hugged me for the first time and i had to tell her, "Baby that's my gun, put it back where you found it.",,,
We have been together ever since and she has never complained about my enjoyment of the shooting sports.
Her only complaint is that I get a bit too involved.
20 hours a week working on guns, about ten a week shooting, cleaning, or just packing one around,,, now I spend about an hour a day enjoying these message boards on the net,,,,hey, It beats surfing for porno and I don't watch much TV either, don't have the time.

 

[The-Fly]

My SO found out about my gun collection when i put her in the gun safe with the other girls

(for the clue impaired, my SO is my G26, she goes everywhere with me )

 

[Offwhite]

I was pretty up front from the begining about it - God that makes me sound like a recovering drug addict...

"Hi my names Grant." - Me
"Hi Grant." - The Supporters
"I...am a gun owner..." - Me

You know they always say the first step is realization, but the last is always a relaps, ha!

 

[Lou629]

After the fact...

Had dated my S.O. for some time when we decided to do the move-in-together thing. In all the months prior to this, the gun subject had never come up. It had been a complete non-issue in my mind and i hadn't really thought about it much to tell the truth. Anyway, once i had emptied my condo and gotten what i wanted to keep of my posessions into her place, that's when the fun started. As she was helping me take some things up to the second floor, she happened across this big, long package...lol...and asked me what was in it ( my 870 ).
Thereafter i think she was afraid to ask any more questions, till one day about 6 months later, when i happened to be cleaning my BHP as she came home from a day out with the girls. Seeing this, she decided that she "wasn't comfortable" with guns in the house. I replied that she seemed to have been quite comfortable for the past 6 months with all of them out-of-sight/mind, so what was the big problem now?
After thinking about it for a minute, she replied that maybe it was better if she just didn't see them. I said ok, and promised to hide them where she'd never think of looking.
"And where would that be?" she asked. My reply:" wherever it is you keep the vaccum cleaner around here."


Epilog: believe it or not, we've managed to stay together for the past 7 years now, lol.

 

[10 Ring Tao]

We met at a regular wine tasting/pizza night at a buddies place. Guns are a frequent topic of conversation for me, and the night she was there was no exception.

She has told me she always wanted to learn how to shoot, and figured she could get some free lessons from me. Apparently, she came to find herself wanting more from me after all.

The third time we hung out (first time at my place), she brought her ruger 22/45 and asked me to help her fix and clean it up. So basically, our thrid date turned into a gun cleaning night.

 

[waterhouse]

The current one knew about my guns long before we started going out . . .since I sold them for a living it was pretty obvious.

The relationship before this one the woman found out when a date went better than expected and she took my shirt off. I hadn't gotten around to talking about it yet, and at the time I actually forgot I was carrying. She took it very well, but she was raised around guns.

 

[BlkHawk73]

In one of our first conversations, before ever actually meting in person, i asked if she had any issues regarding firearms. She used to shoot in her basement as a kid and her father had some interest in firearms so there was no issues.

 

[Kingfisher2]

What she doesn't know...

I find that having a large safe helps hide the new purchases.
She goes out and I go to the trunk of the car and put it in there before she knows. According to her they all look the same...If she only knew...
I am truly a gun addict...I know this because I have several guns in my safe that I have never shot...yet. I hope that some day that Wisconsin gets off their ass and passes the Carry bill. I have my permit for MN and NH but that does me no good here. She knows that I like to collect, But she thinks that the money could be spent elsewhere.

 

[Art Eatman]

Part of getting acquainted with my first wife was talking about hunting and fishing. She owned a Browning .22 semi-auto rifle and a Colt Targetsman she'd won in a shooting contest as a kid. After we married and I started making enough money to buy guns, she took my .357 Blackhawk as "hers"--which forced me into buying a 1911.

My second wife started shooting at around age five. Her claim to fame--which truly chapped her first husband--is a witnessed hipshot on a claybird with a .22 rifle. "Pull!" Splat. She has a pretty fair collection of neat stuff all on her own.

Heck, my first BB gun and my first .22 rifle were Christmas presents from my mother.

What it is, is, there are females and then there are real women.

Art

 

[Pilot]

On our second date we went to a gun shop to pick up a gun I had ordered.

 

[Jorg Nysgerrig]

Perhaps it's just a regional thing, but the whole question just seems odd to me. It's phrased as if it's some dark secret to be be ashamed of or hidden from all.

To me, the question "when did they find out about your guns?" sounds as strange as "When did your significant other find out you had a fish tank?" or "How did your significant other find out that you use a cell phone."

I own guns, but they don't define who I am.