hotbarrelmama
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Hi, my name is Rachel and I'm new to this website. I have been married for 5 years and we have a beautiful, smart 4 year old daughter. Saying that, I also want to say I NEVER thought I would marry a gun advocate.
My father was never into hunting or target shoting, but he was never against it. We just didn't have guns in the house, and they weren't in our discussions, as we were best friends. All I ever knew about guns was that they were harmless unless you pointed it at someone and the person holding it was the weapon, not the gun.
So when my brand new husband and I came home from our honeymoon and he told me he had to move over his gun safe from his mother's house I said, "NO WAY!" There was going to be NO way that he was going to bring a GUN into our house! I mean what if something happend?? I was VERY afraid. After a long talk over a few days, he hauled it over and mostly against my will. Granted it was just a .410, .22, .243, all long guns, they were still guns.
So there it was, we had guns in the house, this was new for me. It wasn't until over a year later when the issue of owning handguns was under discussion. I lost. In fact thinking back, I don't think it was much of a discussion, he just went out and bought it when he got his purchase permit.
So, now we have it. We have long guns and handguns in the house. I don't know how to use them or even care to use them. In fact, I'd like to go back to the guy I married, not the guy that showed up in the house after the honeymoon! What am I going to do?? I have guns in the house and again I don't know how to use them. What if something happened and I need to use it? I mean, not to be conceded, but I'm not ugly by any means. So we are back at the question what do I do?
After a long dicussion, in which I did a lot of kicking and screaming, my husband took me to the range for the very first time. As we walk in, I notice first: not the cleanest place, second: not ONE woman, third: EVERYONE is starring at me, fourth: OH MY! I am at a GUN range!!
We paid our fee and he walks me over to a few sets of doors and into the range. As we stand there at the stall, my heart is racing and I'm scared to death. My husband shows me the gun and tells me to remember what he showed me at home about putting the magazine in and to watch my finger, etc. My finger does NOT start on the trigger. I stand there...scared to death of a paper target. About 4 minutes of me standing staring at the ferocious paper target, I moved my finger from the slide and put my finger on the trigger, exhale and shoot...the next thing I remember is being hit!
OH NO I'm hit!! Then I hear laughing, it was only the shell casing...embrassed I put down the gun and I vowed never to touch it again, it's "too scary, and I can't, I can't do this! NO!" After a little loving, but firm "coaching" I picked up the gun again. This time, note to self, move over left a little more so a hot shell casing doesn't hit me. I shot again this time it only took a few minutes to shoot, next thing I know the magazine is gone! Hey, maybe next time I'll even hit the target! After 45 minutes and about 150 rounds later, I'm getting the hang of this.
I finally starting thinking about the paper target. It was someone, someone trying to hurt me or my family. I was determined to hit that target and make that someone stop! It wasn't about holding or using a gun. It was about me! My family! An unknown circumstance. I know now how to use the gun, were it's kept, how to load it, clean it, and now I even have my carry permit.
I carry. I carry to work, from work, shopping. My friends all know I'm a killer shot. But if it hadn't been for the loving way my husband brought up the subject, persued it, cheered me on when I did decide to go to the range and shoot, I would had done like many other wifes had/have done and said "NO!" What's been laid on my heart is that women, espeically wifes need to know that guns aren't the weapon, the person behind it is. Being ignorant about how to use a gun doesn't make guns go away. It makes it more dangerous for them and their families. So when your wifes so "NO!" don't yell, don't get upset, don't ignore, don't think it's just for you but lovingly tell her it's for her. Her safety and your kids, they need to know how to use a gun, especially if it's in the house.
My father was never into hunting or target shoting, but he was never against it. We just didn't have guns in the house, and they weren't in our discussions, as we were best friends. All I ever knew about guns was that they were harmless unless you pointed it at someone and the person holding it was the weapon, not the gun.
So when my brand new husband and I came home from our honeymoon and he told me he had to move over his gun safe from his mother's house I said, "NO WAY!" There was going to be NO way that he was going to bring a GUN into our house! I mean what if something happend?? I was VERY afraid. After a long talk over a few days, he hauled it over and mostly against my will. Granted it was just a .410, .22, .243, all long guns, they were still guns.
So there it was, we had guns in the house, this was new for me. It wasn't until over a year later when the issue of owning handguns was under discussion. I lost. In fact thinking back, I don't think it was much of a discussion, he just went out and bought it when he got his purchase permit.
So, now we have it. We have long guns and handguns in the house. I don't know how to use them or even care to use them. In fact, I'd like to go back to the guy I married, not the guy that showed up in the house after the honeymoon! What am I going to do?? I have guns in the house and again I don't know how to use them. What if something happened and I need to use it? I mean, not to be conceded, but I'm not ugly by any means. So we are back at the question what do I do?
After a long dicussion, in which I did a lot of kicking and screaming, my husband took me to the range for the very first time. As we walk in, I notice first: not the cleanest place, second: not ONE woman, third: EVERYONE is starring at me, fourth: OH MY! I am at a GUN range!!
We paid our fee and he walks me over to a few sets of doors and into the range. As we stand there at the stall, my heart is racing and I'm scared to death. My husband shows me the gun and tells me to remember what he showed me at home about putting the magazine in and to watch my finger, etc. My finger does NOT start on the trigger. I stand there...scared to death of a paper target. About 4 minutes of me standing staring at the ferocious paper target, I moved my finger from the slide and put my finger on the trigger, exhale and shoot...the next thing I remember is being hit!
OH NO I'm hit!! Then I hear laughing, it was only the shell casing...embrassed I put down the gun and I vowed never to touch it again, it's "too scary, and I can't, I can't do this! NO!" After a little loving, but firm "coaching" I picked up the gun again. This time, note to self, move over left a little more so a hot shell casing doesn't hit me. I shot again this time it only took a few minutes to shoot, next thing I know the magazine is gone! Hey, maybe next time I'll even hit the target! After 45 minutes and about 150 rounds later, I'm getting the hang of this.
I finally starting thinking about the paper target. It was someone, someone trying to hurt me or my family. I was determined to hit that target and make that someone stop! It wasn't about holding or using a gun. It was about me! My family! An unknown circumstance. I know now how to use the gun, were it's kept, how to load it, clean it, and now I even have my carry permit.
I carry. I carry to work, from work, shopping. My friends all know I'm a killer shot. But if it hadn't been for the loving way my husband brought up the subject, persued it, cheered me on when I did decide to go to the range and shoot, I would had done like many other wifes had/have done and said "NO!" What's been laid on my heart is that women, espeically wifes need to know that guns aren't the weapon, the person behind it is. Being ignorant about how to use a gun doesn't make guns go away. It makes it more dangerous for them and their families. So when your wifes so "NO!" don't yell, don't get upset, don't ignore, don't think it's just for you but lovingly tell her it's for her. Her safety and your kids, they need to know how to use a gun, especially if it's in the house.
