Carry what you shoot best.
You know, a perfect analogy comes to mind, from something I've been learning about recently.
In the wild world of guitarists, there is a sizzling hot debate, raging on for decades now, about what makes the perfect tone come out of an electric guitar.
What kind of pickups? Single-coil or humbucking? Over-wound or traditional strength? Ceramic magnets or Alnico? Active or passive? What scale length? 25" 24.75?" 25.5?" Bolt-on neck or "set" neck? What capacitors in the tone circuit? Does the wood the instrument is made of make any difference at all? (This is the ultimate 9mm -vs.- .45 argument!) If so, what woods are best? Swamp ash, mahogany, ebony, maple, basswood, plywood, poplar? What about acrylic and carbon fiber instruments? Or ones with metal parts? Strings? Nickle, cobalt, stainless? Flatwound, round-wound, ground? And on and on and on. Guys LOATHE each other for taking this side or that. Much anger and vitriol expended. And that's before they even start to argue over AMPS!
And the one thing they'll each and every one say is this: "Well, yeah, tone comes from the artist's hands and technique..."
And the truth is, most of that other stuff matters a little ... tiny ... bit. And the huge HUGE driving force is the one thing that you can't go buy: the hands of the artist and his technique. The decades of practice that goes into building the sound you can get out of pretty much any quality instrument.
You can't go buy that at Guitar Center, so we'll argue to the death over the little niggling details that we CAN improve simply with money.
...
The same thing applies to guns and shooting. We rant and rave and fuss and argue (less now than in decades past, but still...) over .40 vs. 9 vs. 45, and revolvers vs. autos, and high-cap vs. single-stack, and this and that and the other...
And each point could be important, maybe, IF you're granting yourself the benefit of assuming that your measurements START with:
1) I had a gun with me when I needed it, and carried in a way I could access quickly
2) I've identified a threat in a timely way
3) I've cleared my cover garment, acquired a firing grip
4) I've drawn the weapon and presented it cleanly
5) I've achieved whatever sighting index or sight picture I should be using under these conditions
6) I've targeted a vital part of the attacker's body
7) I've pressed the trigger smoothly and repeatedly
8) and my shots are landing on-target...
So basically, once 97-98% of the job is performed correctly -- the hard work is done -- then we can argue over the importance of this or that bullet size or weight.
And by that point, the differences just aren't that big a deal.