Would it bother you if your daughter...

[camslam]

My wife and I had a discussion the other night after I told her about a post on a gun forum talking about a young man that told the girl he is dating, that he carried a concealed firearm. It worked out well for him and she was fine with it.

So I asked my wife if she would have a problem if a boy that was dating our daughter had his CCP and carried. She said she would not like that. Keep in mind, my wife has thought about getting her own CCP and she is very supportive of my CCP and firearm issues in general.

15 minutes later we had covered numerous topics related to this idea; age, responsibility level, maturity, education, training, etc... My conclusion was, it would depend on the boy and what I thought of him. After awhile my wife agreed, but she still wasn't jazzed about the idea.

For those of you with daughters or those that don't, I'm curious what your take on this would be. Would it bother you if your daughter was dating or going out with someone that had their conceal carry permit?

 

[highfive]

Like you just said...it probably will be if the boy is mature enough and responsible and of course what i think of him.
If he is an idiot then i will have a problem. If he is somebody that knows how to behave and be responsible I probably will not have a problem. because the first time he comes to the house we will have a looooong talk

 

[jlbraun]

Well, given that CCW holders have been background checked and are guaranteed to be neither a felon nor a domestic abuser, and in my state are at least OK shots with a pistol and have taken a safety class, I would actually feel *better* about her dating a CCWer than just some guy who didn't have a CCW.

 

[Pax Jordana]

I'm not a dad. heck, I'm not even dating. But dealing with other people carrying is a fact of life, as many of us choose to exercise that right.

Personally I try not to be wholly ignorant of anyone - carrier or not. But if they give you no reason to suspect them, they don't warrant more than a guarded regard. IMHO. I don't fraternize with people I'd have any fear for my own life with, as a general thing.

I wonder how it being your daughter dating changes the rules.

Figure this - if he's carrying legally, he doesn't have a significant criminal record. In some states this means he's been fingerprinted. In some states it means he's had stringent legal indoctrinations. At least he's thinking ahead and taking steps to protect himself, if you catch my drift. And he's statistically a whole heckuva lot less likely to do something terrible to her, without her agreeing, if you're still catching my drift.

Or if you're worried that they'll have a bad breakup and he starts developing a seriously loose screw, simply treat him like any other armed nut.

 

[ClickClickD'oh]

Well, given that CCW holders have been background checked and are guaranteed to be neither a felon nor a domestic abuser, I would actually feel *better* about her dating a CCWer than just some guy off the street.

The winning answer.

 

[Sistema1927]

I would be thrilled if my daughter had dated somebody with a CCW. That would have probably meant that her first husband wouldn't have been a complete jerk.

Of course, if your daughter is dating a CCW holder, does that mean that you will engage in .45 vs. 9mm or Glock vs. 1911 arguments?

 

[Ragnar Danneskjold]

So it has nothing to do with him having a CPL. Having a gun doesn't make a good person bad just like not having a gun doesn't make a bad person good. I'm not married and don't have kids, but my daughter could date any guy I deem appropriate based on any number of things. Having a CPL doesn't count against him. Actually, the fact he would go through the drawn out legal process and obtain a CPL legally would show me that he is at least a tad bit more responsible and trustworthy than your average guy.

 

[SG Merc]

Well whether or not a person has a license to carry a gun doesn't mean they may not be a gun owner. So is the fear you're presenting of the gun or the fact the bloke would be carrying it?

 

[Nitrogen]

I'd be fine with it because my daughter would also have her CCW

 

[camslam]

My first question to my wife was, "What are you afraid of, that he is going to pull the gun out and shoot our daughter?"

To which I said, "Hopefully she'll have her own."

I agree with the following to a certain extent:

Well, given that CCW holders have been background checked and are guaranteed to be neither a felon nor a domestic abuser, and in my state are at least OK shots with a pistol and have taken a safety class, I would actually feel *better* about her dating a CCWer than just some guy who didn't have a CCW.

However, I can think of at least 2 guys that have their CCP that I wouldn't be surprised to read in the paper some day, that they got into some trouble. Just like with anything in life, CCP holders aren't perfect, but I tend to give the benefit of the doubt to people that take the time, effort, and money to legally carry a concealed weapon. I think it says something good about their character.

I guess it just comes back to my original thought, it depends on the guy.

 

[Ragnar Danneskjold]

Also keep in mind that in order for the young man to have a CPL, he needs to be 21. And if my daughter is going to be dating a guy who is at least 21, it's likely my daughter is at least 18 herself. And if that's the case, how my wife and I feel about her boyfriend means exactly zilch. She's an adult and can date anyone she wants.

 

[skinewmexico]

It would depend on the guy. And then, hopefully, it would be something cool, that I wanted to shoot.

 

[JohnL2]

If I ever have a daughter, I can't wait to intimidate potential boyfriends.

 

[Thernlund]

To start with, my older daughter's boyfriend is 19. So the discussion for my part is acedemic. But it would go case by case I think. I'm extremely protective of my daughters. A guy they're with being legally armed depends more on the guy than the fact he's armed.

Thinking about it, if I have a problem with him being legally armed, I probably have a problem with him altogether. So the gun becomes (mostly) moot.


-T.

 

[Henry Bowman]

If he is an idiot then i will have a problem.

If he's an idiot, I have a problem with him because he's an idiot dating my daughter. Not because he's (legally) armed. I would be the same with respect to a girl dating my son.

 

[35Rem]

Ask to see his CCW Badge...if he has one, show him the door!

Seriously, as other's said, he's been fleeced pretty good already, take him shooting and judge for yourself whether or not you're comfortable with him having a weapon around your daughter.
Also, good dinner table talk. He's obviously OK with having one, ask why he has it.

 

[Correia]

Having a CCW is mandatory before dating my daughters. As is a good credit rating, job history, IQ test, toxicology screen, background check, and implanted tracking chip...

 

[Ala Dan]

My only daughter is married, and carries regularly; OTOH, my son in-law
cares nothing 'bout firearms, and doesn't try too learn self defense tactics~!

 

[cassandrasdaddy]

if he passed all my other "checks" a ccw would be a plus. he'd be able to protect her.it would depemd on the kid

 

[Black Adder LXX]

I would be okay with it, if he wasn't an idiot. This would definitely put a damper on the 'gun cleaning on the table, touch-my-daughter-you-die' speech, though if he draws faster than you...

 

[craig]

well, my stepdaughter's only 13 so i still have a few years to wait.

if it comes to that, i wouldn't have a problem with it as long as i can try out his carry gun.

i just wonder how the guy would feel about the stepdaughter carrying?

 

[DoubleTapDrew]

I think it shows he's willing to go through the hoops to be responsible, legal, and take the necessary steps to protect himself and (hopefully) his girlfriend. If he's a creep/jerk/hothead chances are he won't have his CHL for long (or his freedom or life, depending on how far it goes). I would probably have a problem if the guy was carrying illegally.

How about the flip side: Would you have a problem with your son dating a girl that carries?

 

[Eyesac]

Soon to be father of a daughter here And I think it would be great! If it got real serious with them, I just might have to send him and my daughter to a chootin' class...

 

[bogie]

It sure as heck would bother me.

NOBODY with a concealed carry permit is gonna date her.

(now think a little...)

 

[Elm Creek Smith]

My younger daughter has her own KelTec P11, a gift from my brother on her college graduation. She likes to carry three extra magazines (S&W M59 magazines with filler sleeves!). Anyone dating her would be safe enough if he didn't carry. My older daughter's husband is a tow-truck driver, infantry Desert Storm veteran, and all-around nice guy. He likes to carry a little .38 snub in his back pocket for when a possible threat is further away than he can reach with a tie-down chain.

It pretty much takes a grown-up to go through the hoops of getting a CWL here in Oklahoma.

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