Hi, new here. My husband and I took a gun safety and handling course followed by a trip to the shooting range. I loved it, he, not so much. I want to continue going and practicing and I am pretty sure I want to purchase a handgun when I feel I can comfortably handle one. Here in VA it's pretty easy to get a permit for concealed carry.
We have a 19 year old daughter living at home who is less than stable, but before I get a gun I intend to have a wall safe installed in our bedroom.
My husband is very much against us owning a gun. Until recently I was also fairly anti-gun but as I see it, if I lived in a country with strict gun laws and where hardly anyone carried a gun, I wouldn't need to carry a gun. But I live in a country where A LOT of people carry guns and a lot of people who want to harm me or my family carry guns.
And I really enjoyed the shooting range and seem to have a bit of a knack for it. I intend to go often and it makes sense for me to have my own gun once I decide which type I prefer (currently I like a revolver).
So, what's a gun-loving chick to do if her husband doesn't want a gun in his home? It is his home too after all, and I can't really see a way to compromise on this -- since I am the one who changed my attitude I kind of think it isn't very fair to him, but then again, I want a gun.
Advice?
Meesh
We tend to see this question here a lot, but with the genders switched.
Ultimately, it becomes a question about boundaries, respect, and you still being your own person even though you are married, and JUST as entitled to have what you want as he is to have what he wants.
Putting in a wall safe sounds like an excellent comprimise. After that, he just needs to get over it, and he needs to accept you have found a new hobby.
Of course, if he runs out and buys a motorcycle, you'll just have to bite your tongue.
Now, onto one specific part
My husband is very much against us owning a gun. Until recently I was also fairly anti-gun but as I see it,
if I lived in a country with strict gun laws and where hardly anyone carried a gun, I wouldn't need to carry a gun. But I live in a country where A LOT of people carry guns and a lot of people who want to harm me or my family carry guns.
Here's the deal. It really doesn't matter how many people carry guns, but the QUALITY of people carrying guns. Obviously if the quantity of guns was important, then a gunshow would be the DEADLIEST place on earth to set foot into.
Truth is, a bunch of honest men carrying guns gives you NOTHING to fear.
Now, on the other hand a SINGLE person with RAPE, MURDER, and MAYHEM on his or her mind, with a gun...that ONE person is a problem.
And we see time and time again, even in the countries with the STRICTIST gun laws, a single person with an illegal gun cuts a huge swath of destruction.
(we also see a single person with RAPE, MURDER, and MAYHEM on his or her mind manages it quite well without a gun. Boxcutters = plane into the twin towers, epidemic of knife violence in the UK. Crazy german goes on a 'school shooting rampage' with a flamethrower he made out of a garden chemical sprayer, Jilted lover plows her SUV into the line outside of a nightclub when her EX and his new girl are there)
Further, as we see in Virginia Tech (where there was a total ban on guns on campus) often the person bent on MAYHEM specifically seeks out an area where, due to laws, there is a very rare chance of the attacker meeting armed resistance. I mean, there is a reason Cho decided to walk into a VT classroom and start shooting rather than walk into the local Police Department and start shooting.