Do you guys really....?

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wives

my wedding present almost 34 years ago was an skb 200e dbl. bbl. [ithaca] shotgun. she's often said that it was her first mistake. the second was something about saying i do. that's her story and she's sticking to it. still have both of them and they're in pretty good shape.

 

[Mute]

I have found that it is indeed easier to ask for forgiveness than permission.

 

[Mauserlady]

I'm definitely not a guy but can still give my .02 right???

David and I (like someone else that already posted) have a "household account" that we each put money into every payday. We also have our seperate accounts and that money is ours to do with whatever we want... He wants a new gun and can afford it I say go for it... And he's the same way with me on anything I want to purchase...

I may tease him a little about certain purchases/trades (OK there's one that he sold that I'm still not happy about) but that's all it really is...

 

[Archie]

The only time my wife complained...

was when I didn't tell her I bought one.

She wasn't angry about the money (we have a good living and I'm not a wastrel), or even "another gun". It was because I ignored her.

She's too good a partner to screw up the relationship with something that small.

 

[Soap]

I've never had the slightest problem.

 

[Series 70]

For our 20th anniversary, I took her to a jewelry store and let her pick out a diamond ring. She took me to a gunshop and let me pick out a J-frame. I teased her about having spent more on her, but she retorted that I'd probably go through a couple holsters and at least one pair of grips before I found the right combination, so it'd all work out.

I hate it when she's right.

 

[CZ-100]

My wife could care less.

 

[mtnbkr]

She's not really a "gun person" but knows that I enjoy them and so she supports my "hobby." So long as there's food on the table, a roof over our heads, and the bills are paid (my first priority as well) she's perfectly happy to let me indulge myself

That's my wife in a nutshell. Though, she is starting to become a gun person...

Chris

 

[ceetee]

It's funny, even though my wife is in law enforcement, she's one of those "One gun is enough" types... So, like many others here, we have one account for all the "household money" then she gets an allowance, and so do I. She gets to use hers on hairdo's and such, and I get to buy ammo...

 

[rock jock]

I discuss all large purchases (incuding firearms) with my wife, as she does with me. The day I start hiding stuff is the day we need serious counseling.

 

[Guy B. Meredith]

Julie's stated position is that everyone needs a hobby or interest and she would worry about me if I didn't have one. Though her comments few years back about looking into self defense weapon gave me my opening to the first purchase she is not interested in firearms. She is not against firearms, just sees them as any other hobby items--coins, stamps, books--and they become a part of the household knick-knacks.

On the other hand, in our house I am the frugal one. Julie is an impulse buyer and brings home an endless stream of items--mostly new age or decorative. I could probably put a guilt trip on her and just buy what I want, but again I am the frugal shopper so discuss anything over a trivial price. The implied guilt trip is probably the reason that she always leave the final decision to me.

 

[PAshooter]

That's my wife in a nutshell. Though, she is starting to become a gun person...

Good for her! How'd this come about, if I may ask? I'd love for my wife to come over to the dark side, but she shows no interest... she's one of those "afraid of guns" types. I keep gently pushing... trying to get her to at least come to the range with me once and try out something "gentle" but so far nogo. Don't want to push too hard.

BTW - my wife is also the frugal one in the family, except when it comes to spending money on me (and others, particularly at Christmas)... go figure. She buys stuff she wants (mostly foo-foo candle stuff and home decorating knick-knacks) but never spends much money on them... makes her feel guilty - which I always tell her not to. I used to be the same way (guilty about spending my money on myself... came from many years in a crappy first marriage where I was taught to feel that way... another story). She's finally cured me of it... which is why I now need to find a second gun safe

Hands down, my wife is the most wonderful woman in the world... and not just because of this.

 

[mtnbkr]

How'd this come about, if I may ask?

I don't really know for certain. She's never been interested in guns until recently, right before our daughter was born. I think it's because she now understands the defensive use of guns. She (we actually) have something more important than ourselves to protect.

I doubt she'll ever get into them recreationally, but she did enjoy our first trip to the range. She also asks a lot more questions and actually browses around when we go to gunshows.

I try not to push the issue though. I don't want to be overbearing, nor do I want to overwhelm her with facts, figures, tips, etc. Right now, we're concentrating on being comfortable with shooting and just enjoying the activity.

Chris

 

[Holly76201]

Chris,
Sounds like your wife's conversion is similar to mine. Becoming a Mother turned on my 'tiger' gene. Keep hoping she will get into the recreation side of firearms, I did.

Holly

 

[cool45auto]

My fiance's pretty cool. If I handle a gun long enough she'll just roll her eyes and say "Go ahead!"

 

[Strings]

like several others have said...

the problem with my wife isn't "permission". So long as the bills are paid, her only gripe is that the next one is hers. Right now, I'm looking at getting her Kimber to get her off my back...

 

[NavajoNPaleFace]

My wife, having grown up on the reservation, had little contact with guns until she met me. And that did concern me some way back when.

But, she doesn't even bat an eye if I pick up a new gun.

I have two safes chocked full with more behind clothes in the closet. I'm waiting for after Xmas to get the thrid, and probably my last, safe.

She has shot every gun I have including the 8MM mausers, 1903A3s, the Swedes, the Steyr M95, etc. without even a flinch.

However I can't say she is a BIG gun shooter but rather just shoots when she goes with me.

But, she did surprise me not too long ago. Seeing she has a 70 mile one-way trip to work (and back) through some pretty serious traffic and, sometimes isloated areas, she came to me saying she wanted her own CCW/purse gun. I let her pick it out and she went with the Sig 239 in 9MM.

Personally, I would've gone with a heavier bullet but it's her gun and she can shoot it, too! LOL

I guess I'm like many in here in that I have a keeper.

 

[MuzzleBlast]

Considering how much money she feeds to those damn horses, my wife is arguing from a VERY weak position.

 

[Jick42]

There is nothing that is not discussed together in our house. With that said, my wife knows the love of guns i have and is behind me all the way. We only have one account in the household, and we both work, so theres always plenty of money. When i am ready to buy a new gun, i always tell her which one i am getting and how much it is, just so we are both always on the same page. The great thing is she like to go out with me to the range as much as i do, and she gets very upset if she hasnt gotten to go for awhile. I think the only place we really differ, is i have no problem spending a couple thousand on one gun, and she begins to cringe at that. But, that hardly ever happens, only when i've been saving for sometime.

 

[hillbilly]

I really want to echo that three bank account idea.

That has prevented a lot of potential conflicts in my household.

We have the household account. Both our paychecks go into that account.

Then, we pay ourselves an agreed-upon amount out of that household account, and that money (flexible amount, negotiated, and depending upon number of bills that month, size of paychecks, etc) goes into our own separate personal accounts.

In fact, my wife has both her own checking and savings account. I just take it in cash........of course, that means I have currently about $70 in completely my money, whereas wife has about $1500 in her personal savings account.

But that three bank account system works!

And there are no questions asked when I order a case of ammo, or she brings home a new pottery wheel. It's done with "personal money" only.

hillbilly

 

[tcsd1236]

My wife always asks how much the gun costs and what I will buy her that costs the same amount of money. Yes, she is serious when she asks.

 

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3 accounts

good gravy, if we had 3 accounts i'd have a service charge on each for "low minimum"

 

[Gus Dddysgrl]

I'm with Mauserlady. I am a female but I'm still gonna add my .02.

My fiancee is not as into guns as I am, but he likes the fact that I have convinced him to go shooting with me. He has fun and wants to get more into it when we have time and money. I am the only one to have my own gun, but I got money from my b-day for it.

To be honest I didn't discuss it with him since it was my money and we're not married yet. When we do get married I think it will be joint purchases. We don't have much $$ since we are in school and getting married.

Like my father I had to tell my mom. (well he doesn't really tell her all the time since he borrows the money from me. I'll let him talk about her.) She freaked out cause she thought I could have bought a fishing pole instead(it would have been "safer"). Go figure. I think she was more upset that I spent my gun money on a gun and not save it for my wedding. I don't think I'll be telling whe I get a gun, but I will have to wait to buy another one till I move out and don't have to tell her.

Oh well. moms will be moms. It's just my mom is Perfessr's wife.

 

[SteveS]

I like the 3 accounts idea. We might have to try that. This has never really been a problem. We always discuss any major purchase. If I am interested in a gun I just say so. We'll see if we have the money and I'll get it if we do. This works well because I am more of an impulse buyer. Before we were married, I had 1000's in credit card bills, decent income, and cheap rent. I had no excuse to be in debt. Now, we are pretty much debt free (except for a house payment and student loans), so I trust her judgment when it comes to finances.