Does anybody hide a new gun purchase to your wife/gf??

[Tony Gable]

I have 2 gun safes full of guns. About half of them I inherited from my father when he passed and the other half i inherited from her father when he passed. I have bought 2 or 3 since we have been married (19 years) and she never batted an eye. She likes guns also and just recently got into shooting small caliber rifles. My gun purchases don't come out of the house hold budget. Just my overtime earnings and she has no problem with that. Since she has gotten into shooting rifle, I may see a few more gun purchases in the future. We are real honest with each other.

Tony

 

[qajaq59]

Nope

 

[redneck2]

My wife turned in her vacation and also worked overtime to buy me an Uberti 1866 Yellow Boy, an 1873 Colt SAA 44-40, and a Browning BPCR 45-90.

Work hard. Watch your money. You can get nice stuff.

If you're spending that much money that she doesn't know about, then she's probably doing the same. This is the reason that the average credit card debt in American is somewhere north of $9,000 per household.

Deception will lead to ruin of your marriage. Been there, done that. If you lie about that, what else are you lying about? Not a particularly good character trait. I remember reading about that in some book called "Proverbs". You might want to check it out. In fact, it covers debt, business relationships, interpersonal relationships, personal conduct. Good read.

 

[JWarren]

I guess I am lucky. Jenn has actually requested that I tell her prior to my Birthday, Anniversery, Christmas, etc. what firearms/accessories that I want so she can get them as gifts.

A Saiga 308 wasa Christmas, a RIA 1911 was a Birthday, upgrading to a LR-308 was last Christmas, AR lower was Valentines day, I think Ziess optics is Birthday or Anniversery this year. There's been a couple AKs in that mix as well.

She says that I am hard to shop for.


-- John

 

[Hokkmike]

I don't hide it, but I don't disclose it. Women just don't understand why a guy might feel a compulsion to go from a .20 gauge pump to a 12 gauge O/U, or from a revolver to a semi auto. In their clouded world a .222 is the same as a .30 - 06 and they see no reason for 2 (what are you gonna do with "that" one) rifles that "look" the same.

I only have 5 or 6 pair of shoes, however.

 

[DaveInFloweryBranchGA]

The question in my mind is why would anyone want to be with a woman who doesn't respect his hobbies, etc or stay with a woman he feels compelled to lie to? I'd rather be dead than lie. Then again, I wouldn't cheat either.

If I had a woman who questioned my gun purchases, I'd get rid of her. But then, I wouldn't buy a firearm if it affected our household finances in a negative fashion.

Just my .02,

Dave

 

[BADUNAME4]

Don't Ask/Don't Tell

 

[JWarren]

I don't hide it, but I don't disclose it. Women just don't understand why a guy might feel a compulsion to go from a .20 gauge pump to a 12 gauge O/U, or from a revolver to a semi auto. In their clouded world a .222 is the same as a .30 - 06 and they see no reason for 2 (what are you gonna do with "that" one) rifles that "look" the same.

Hokkmike,

You'd be surprised. My wife was raised in a family of hunters and firearms enthusiasts. Now she's married to one. After listening to me on road trips and such, she probably has more knowledge of firearms than a lot of posters on these boards-- even though she isn't an "enthusiast" herself.

On our last drive, we discussed twist rate in rifle barrels. Later that week I told her that I was ordering some 55-grain 5.56 and she commented that "I thought you wanted heavier grain when you got a 1:7 twist barrel."

This went into a discussion of plinking and reloading.

Be careful... those women are paying attention more than you realize.


-- John

 

[Zeke/PA]

Firearms purchases?
Yep! Along with Schrade knives, photography supplies and fishing tackle.
Zeke

 

[Hokkmike]

You'd be surprised. My wife was raised in a family of hunters and firearms enthusiasts. Now she's married to one. After listening to me on road trips and such, she probably has more knowledge of firearms than a lot of posters on these boards-- even though she isn't an "enthusiast" herself.

On our last drive, we discussed twist rate in rifle barrels. Later that week I told her that I was ordering some 55-grain 5.56 and she commented that "I thought you wanted heavier grain when you got a 1:7 twist barrel."

This went into a discussion of plinking and reloading.

Be careful... those women are paying attention more than you realize.

You are right of course. My wife, for example, can sit and critique a football game with me. She knows the plays and tactics.

I guess most of my shooting friends (99.5%) are men, and I was thinking along those lines. But you are right!

 

[gcrookston]

When I first got married my wife asked me how many guns I had. My reply: "How many pairs of shoes do you have?"

It's never been an issue.

 

[moooose102]

no, i dont hide things from my wife. i have to trust her with my life, and vice versa, so i wont lie or hide things from her. she is really pretty good about it anyway. we use common sense, i dont buy a gun when money is tight, and she wont go to the casino and gamble when money is tight. after that, if we have a little extra money, she goes to the casino, and i go to the gun shop! works for me.

 

[stubbicatt]

I love single life. No more complaints. No more worries.

 

[mainebear]

I have to tell my wife.
#1. She goes shooting with me 90% of the time.
#2. She knows exactly what our inventory is, and can spot within a fraction of a second whether that Remmy 700 is in 30-06 or 308.
#3. She has her own collection so, when I add, she adds. (If she hasn't swiped it from mine)
Besides, when funds are available she encourages my purchases. Says it keeps me out of her hair, the bars, and away from fast women. (not necessarily in that order)
LIfe is good when you got a shootin woman. Northern Maine women, you gotta luv em.

 

[goon]

I don't hide purchases from her.

It wouldn't work anyhow because she is too smart for that. She'd figure it out.
But I don't ask permission either.

We're not married (yet) so my money isn't OUR money (yet).
I've had this discussion with my GF. She's all for gun ownership but doesn't think I need more than one of anything. She doesn't get the difference between a 10/22 and a CZ-452. To her, if you have a .22 rifle you don't need another one.
This isn't really because she's a woman - it's because she's inexperienced with guns. She really doesn't understand that a Marlin 30-30 does a different job (mostly) than an HK 91. To her, both are rifles that will hit stuff a football field away. If you have one, you don't need the other and you should put the extra money in a savings account.
That usually opens up a whole new conversation about how my latest purchase of $50 worth of ammo provides way more security to me (and her) than the extra few bucks invested in our failing economy would. But I digress...

My GF doesn't really like that I spend money on guns (I'm planning another purchase next week), but at the same time, she realizes that there really aren't any grounds for her to object at this point (again, because it's my money).
Besides, she won't have any complaints at all when she's popping balloons with a stainless 10/22.

Now if/when we do get married, my money becomes OUR money. Then she does have a legitimate say - not about the gun so much as much as a large expenditure. I really wouldn't have any business spending several hundred dollars of OUR money and not getting her input first.

We've already worked out a system to get around that though.
She'll give me an allowance and then take the rest to help with savings, bills, etc. I can save my "allowance" for several months to buy an expensive gun, buy beer, whatever - it's mine.

I have to admit that my GF is kind of the responsible one so realistically, that plan is pretty good for us. She's good with money and will probably be rich someday (if the economy doesn't totally collapse before then).

 

[OzarksMagic]

My wife doesn't even know I own a gun.......Been CCW for months now....
She says no guns in the house...

 

[cpttango30]

I have not hid a gun purchas from her. But then I do not go out of my way to point out all the reloading supplys I buy either. I feel I can spend $231 on 2000 bullets and work on shooting them up all year. I added up the cost of factory ammo. and showed her how much I would save by reloading she got much better about me buying reloading supplys.

 

[Rokyudai]

I, uhm (clearing throat, propping back up against the bulging safe room door)..I, don't know what you are talking about. There is nothing to see here...nothing. Please move along...

Seriously though, being fairly new to the married life and joint incomes practice, I have to admit I'm making rookie mistakes; that I casually brought home a new SIG 556 from a business trip a few weeks ago...and it sat in my car overnight until the guilt of making a purchase like this gnawed at me (it wasn't the TexMex food this time) until I debriefed her the following morning...after breakfast of course.

I told her and to my surprise she sighed and said, "Ok. Please no more until we get a better handle on our finances." See, we just built a house several months ago, did about 10g of landscaping in the backyard, and I bought one of those Apple Air laptops (shweet by the way) and this all of course put a dent in the account. To make it more challenging to me (and knowing my weakness of course for the boomsticks) she 'fun/serious' bets me that I can't go a year (from date of purchase) without purchasing another. If I do, I have to do all the laundry for the year.

So....once/if the Massoud rears it's head this year, I will be Haus Frau Rok, the Kotton King of laundering.

Oh gosh she's home...signing off this thread!

 

[Landlocked Pirate]

Does anybody hide a new gun purchase to your wife/gf??

Absolutely not! I would NEVER do that!

 

[cracked butt]

i just buy similar weapon to one I already own so she does not recognise it as new!

I've had that advice given to me by an old man about 10 years ago- its worked so far.

I don't hide anything I buy, but I don't make it obvious when I bring something new home. The wife noticed the other night that I have a lot more guns than I did last year at this time. She asked me if I bought any recently- I replied "not in awhile*" and she dropped the subject.

*Not in a while can be any period of time longer than the last 20 minutes.

 

[Barr]

I bought most of my firearms or inherited them before I got married. I still buy a handful a year and the wife is perfectly fine with it, I do not have to hide them. If I had to hide my activities, I would not have married her. By that same token, I support her hobby interests as well. It is a partnership. Somehow mine always end up more expensive though.

 

[Wopasaurus]

I bought her a Cannon Rebel for Christmas. I can pretty much get away with buying anything

Plus, she bought me a Yugo AK Underfolder for christmas last year So I win.

 

[NAK]

I don't have to hide guns...we don't live together, so there is no money issue. My GF likes guns and want to try out every new purchase. I have had to buy a gun or two for her so I could reclaim my favorites.

She does not exactly understand the 'amount' of ammo I have and gives me flack every time I buy more than a couple of boxes at a time.

...never claimed I don't hide ammo.

 

[AndyC]

Nope - I don't enjoy feeling that I'm hiding stuff from my wife.

 

[brentn]

lmao, a 'black budget'

Well I'm not going to lie, but one time I did buy an SKS for about 250$ in which I did not tell my GF as I was supposed to be buying christmas gifts. She wanted one too so that was another reason not to tell her

Right now I have to hide a reciever purchase for an AR15 that I'm eyeing on, cause we're going to cuba for a bit and I'm supposed to be saving my money lol.
I'll have enough, but if she see's that I'm buying gun parts again during this time, things will not go over well.

You should never let a woman change the way you are, or what you like to do, you should change for yourself.
If you like buying guns and she doesn't, too bad for her, but there is no shame in hiding purchases from her to smooth the relationship over IMO