You obviously have a SERIOUS problem with authority. I never said not to question authority, but it's unreasonable to be unwilling to ever accept authority.
There are people who demand authority in order to be able to do their jobs. School kid and teacher, law enforcement and motorist, defendant/plaintiff and judge, these are some examples of relationships that demand some form of authority and submission (for lack of a better word). And at the same time they all exist very well inside the framework of our society. You can be hard nosed about your rights and still show the appropriate respect for the position of a law enforcement officer (or judge or college professor, etc). But you are somehow equating this to being a "slave". You keep using words like "surrender", "fear" and "threat" when all the original situation called for was simple cooperation.
There really is no paradox. While keeping all of your constitutional rights, you will still lawfully submit to authority on occasion. If your ticket goes to court, the officer who wrote you up will submit to the authority of the judge.
I would just keep in mind that on the side of the road at night is not the safest part of the work day for law enforcement. When you are pulled over for speeding, you're not on equal footing with the officer. He/she is in control and HAS to be to do their job safely. If you can't be controlled verbally, you're just begging for the situation to be escalated.
Just something to think about I guess...