Husband shoots man found in bed with wife, police say

[Beren]

Husband shoots man found in bed with wife, police say

Thursday, January 06, 2005
By Rebekah Scott, Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

A Derry man is in the Westmoreland County jail today, charged with shooting a man he found asleep beside his estranged wife yesterday.

State police in Greensburg said Robert Cole, 43, arrived at a home on Route 982 at about 7:30 a.m. In the bedroom he found his wife Jessica, 23, asleep next to Anthony Calabrace, a 35-year-old Latrobe man. An argument ensued, and Calabrace reportedly pulled a .22 caliber pistol from under the bed.

The argument continued in the downstairs kitchen, where Cole wrestled the gun from Calabrace and fired at Calabrace's head.

Cole was arraigned on charges of criminal attempt homicide, assault, endangerment and terroristic threats. Calabrace was treated for a bullet fragment wound at Latrobe Hospital, according to Trooper Jeanne Martin.

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Beren's Comments:

1. Never a good idea to sleep with another man's wife. Wait until she's legally divorced.

2. Don't pull a gun on someone unless you're willing to use it before they take it off you and feed it to you.

3. How did the husband gain entry? Because the article says "a house", I assume it was the victim's house. Was his door unlocked?

4. (What did you expect when you married a girl half your age?)

 

[Sindawe]

All good points Beren, except #4. Age and age disparity has nothing to do with it, as I'm sure not a few of us can attest due to first hand experience.

Of course, if the spouse is estranged, its in that rather difficult maybe/maybe not stage of things.

 

[Atticus]

4. (What did you expect when you married a girl half your age?)

Motivation.

 

[R.H. Lee]

Cole was arraigned on charges of criminal attempt homicide, assault, endangerment and terroristic threats.

There's that again.

I don't get it. They guy was attacked by a "gun wielding" man, whom he disarmed and shot. How is that a crime?

 

[赤悪魔]

non issuse

Sounds like the 3way got out of hand.
Wow trash kills better lover in anger fit over low life harlot who had his baby.
Why should I care they were all sinners in the eyes of the lord. If any of the three were good looking it may make a good tv movie
SINNER

 

[Nehemiah Scudder]

Derry huh.

I'm surprised you didn't mention the other big gun story.

http://www.post-gazette.com/pg/05005/437387.stm

A bail bondsman with a shotgun blows the living crap out of a fugitive.


Could you post the link please, I did a search for Robert Cole over at the PG site and couldn't find the article.

Unless it doesn't comply with the THR's Fair Use policy. I know they differ from site to site.

 

[Remington788]

I'd sure like to know who's "home" they were at.

 

[Monkeyleg]

You know, I've often thought about this over the years. Not that I think my wife would cheat, but just the possible scenario.

And, to be honest, I don't know if I'd shoot the guy or just walk out the door forever.

I'm pretty certain I'll never have to face that decision.

 

[M1911Owner]

I heard about 20 years ago that, in Texas, if you catch your wife in bed with another man, you get one shot at them. Two shots is murder, but the first shot is free.

Anybody know if that's true?

 

[sm]

Being the true Southern Faithful Husband to a wife 8 yrs younger - I walked out of the house, called my attorney the night I caught mine with another.

I made damn sure I had two witnessses to help me move out. Later when she went to work ( wherever) Word is the two adulterers stayed in a hotel for a few days. I guess all them reloaders and cases of shotguns shells spoiled the mood...

She is now raising her daughter ( the result of said affair) by herself. The "other" guy died about a year ago. I got over it , she "made her bed" she gets to sleep in it.

Yes I was CCW-ing , hell I had my Skeet Gun Cased in hand when I caught them...I turned , said bye to the dogs , and rode off into the night...

 

[Sean85746]

Shoulda took the dogs.

 

[sm]

Technically hers before married. She got billed for the Vet because they got sick ( literally ) when I left. I had no place to keep them...

Like I said I called my attorney, rode off into the night. After I got my stuff I stayed busy... burning up the highways , and burning up shotgun shells and ammo in general. Ended up 2 states away one night "out for a drive". I burned thru 15 rds of skeet next day, and 1k rd of 45ACP. I did a Lot of that for awhile.

*shrug* my coping mechanism I guess. Keep busy. Kinda explains the nickname Desperado I was given by a shooting pard or two...or three..or...

 

[joab]

Key word here is estranged.

She had left him, or do some of you think that your wives are property that can only be released from that bondage with your permission.

How do we know that she's a harlot. Given the guy's actions maybe he's the reason she left.

Where in the post does it mention babies

Why should I care they were all sinners in the eyes of the lord.

so I guess you can throw the first stone

Anybody know if that's true?

No, it's not

I don't get it. They guy was attacked by a "gun wielding" man, whom he disarmed and shot. How is that a crime?

Maybe the guy was invading the gun wielding man's home at the time

 

[Ryder]

How do we know that she's a harlot.

Natural odds? Some people do tend to use past experience as tools for predicting probabilities. I prefer scientific evidence myself.

For example-

I don't personally know one single male who has been arrested for domestic violence but I don't make any judgements based on that. I might be special.

It's a little more difficult to refute scientific testing though. Like that one thing about how the majority of paternity tests prove the husband is not the father of his own children.

As for the story, don't invite yourself into the home of another.

 

[Sindawe]

A bit off topic

As for the story, don't invite yourself into the home of another.

Too true. Maybe I'm weird, but I don't do this even with a friends place where I'm expected. Ring to bell and wait, knock loudly and wait until acknowledged and invited in. Of course, I DO live in a State with a "Make My Day" law where home intruders can be legally meet flying rounds of 00-buckshot. I'd rather cool my heals than be mistaken for a goblin.

 

[Art Eatman]

M1911owner, the Texas Legislature rewrote the criminal code back some 30+ years ago.

One thing they changed was with reference to a husband catching SweetThang in flagrante delicto and shooting her partner. The newspapers had a ball talking about how Texas was coming into the 20th Century, with it no longer being a freebie for a husband to shoot the wife's partner when they were caught in the act. IIRC, Molly Ivins outdid herself with scorn and sarcasm...

I gotta admit, I'm of mixed emotions about it.

"Yes, ever the sportsman, I caught him on the rise!"

, Art

 

[Snake Eyes]

I never understood this. Why shoot the guy? The wife is the cheater. She'll probably just go find another guy.

If one was actually going to go so far as shooting one of the two, it would seem prudent to shoot your spouse.

That'll put an end to it!

 

[Sindawe]

I never understood this. Why shoot the guy? The wife is the cheater. She'll probably just go find another guy.

Logically yes, but logic does not rule in such circumstances. These kinds of situations are often driven, if not ruled by the primitive reptile brains that fight an interloper first, then deal with the transgressor later.

 

[Art Eatman]

Snake Eyes, you're trying to be rational and objective about what for most is a highly emotional situation. Pragmatism just ain't involved. I guess it's one of those "If you don't already know, you'll never understand." deals.

Art

 

[bratch]

Bring back the Texan law. Fear of being shot might keep some people from going where they don't belong.

I'd probably walk out but if I went off the deep end I would need more than 1 round.

 

[赤悪魔]

here a point you may have missed

Hunting cost hunderds of pounds to take part in accross the pond. But there is nothing in the new law that says a group for friends with bats paddles sticks and large rocks can fined an animal in a field and beat its head in.
Hunting will live one as a mod activity

 

[Nehemiah Scudder]

I think it's the wrong thread, but I give points for style!

 

[LiquidTension]

Yeah, my anger would definitely be directed toward my wife, not the other guy. She's the one that swore vows, not him. Unless he's also married, but in that case the vows weren't made to me...well, not in SC anyway. Maybe in Mass.

 

[ruger270man]

lesson #5. .22 is inadequate. A headshot and the guy was "treated for a bullet fragment wound"

 

[Brian Dale]

Ummm, howdy there, Kanji-san. welcome to THR! Not trying to be rude, but how do you pronounce your screen name, please? Do you mind posting a romaji version? Google translates it to English as "Red Demon;" is that close to correct? Thanks.

On Topic: Art, I guess that I'm one of them that don't and won't understand. Here's my rule of thumb -- copyleft, no rights reserved; anyone may use it:

If you walk in and find your wife in bed with someone, and he knows where the gun is under the bed (either it's his house, or he knows your house that well; you draw the same conclusion about your marriage in either case):

It's OVER. Leave.

But always take the dogs if there's any good way to do it (not a shot at you, sm, sometimes the answer is "can't," and that musta been hard).