I prefer the 180's over the 165 for the deeper penetration, usually depending on brand. I like the Winchester 180 Ranger Talon and the Federal Tactical 180's or Speer Gold Dot 180's. These seem to perform ideally. To my way of thinking I like the extra weight for better momentum over the increase in velocity. I just believe heavier rounds hit harder. The extra velocity of 50 or 100 FPS really is not that big a deal. I like heavy bullets for the best penetration. This is from Winchester LE catalog.
40 S&W 165 Talon 1140 velocity
Bare Gell: 12.7 # expansion .61
Four Layers denim: 13.2 # expansion .70
Heavy Cloth 14.3 # expansion.68
40 S&W 180 Talon 990 velocity
Bare Gell 13.8 # expansion .60
Four Layers denim 14.3 # expansion .70
Heavy Cloth 13.4 # expansion .64
You can't go wrong with either round they are pretty close, but I still prefer the extra weight for more momentum.