Situational Awareness and Mindset

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My wife just received her carry permit a few days ago. I am trying to have coversations with her about carrying but I am getting a lot of "I won't need a gun there" or "why should I carry why we are walking on our road" She mainly wanted to get the permit for long road trips she occasionally has to take.

She is an attractive blond and my very pretty 13 year old daughter is with her almost all of the time. She is a well-educated school teacher who enjoys reading. I think maybe a few good books about mindset and situational awareness might open her eyes more than her "paranoid husband".

I want to get her to read the CorneredCat website but she prefers pages between her fingers instead of a monitor.

thanks in advance for any responses
 
I'm sure that every place she doesn't think she needs a gun you can find a news report of a violent crime that took place in a similar place.

I wouldn't push too hard though. At least she is past the thinking "It can't happen to me" to "It might happen to me."

Pilgrim
 
Ask her to show all the times where a person was carrying legally and bad things happened to them. Might take a while I can only think of a very few, and normally where the CCW was badly out numbered or out gunned.

Cheap insurance, she probably would not go a block without her cell phone.
 
"Principles of Personal Defense" by Col. Jeff Cooper.

A short read, but persuasive information to help your wife develop a survival mindset.
 
I doubt we men could understand, but I think a pretty womans best defense is batting her eyes and asking for help, of course, if she was smart, she would understand that it may not always work and that nothing beats having a leetle p-32 for just in case.

Today's modern woman needs to hear advice from anyone other than her husband, be smart and let her find out stuff by mistake.
 
Ask her this question. "Why do you carry a cellphone?" Through my many times asking this question the answer is always the same "In the case I have to get in touch with someone, in case of an emergency.

I asked this of a friend who had his CCW but didn't carry everywhere he went. He would only carry if he was going to a "bad area". It didn't take much more than that single question while discussing carrying to spark a situation in his mind and now he carries everywhere.

I hadn't planned it, it was a spur of the moment question that arose in my fantastical mind but it worked. I have since asked the same question multiple times of people I know who carry and people I know who are against gun ownership. The answer is usually always the same.
 
I asked this of a friend who had his CCW but didn't carry everywhere he went. He would only carry if he was going to a "bad area".
Click to expand...

This is a typical thinking error. The fact is that criminals go to good neighborhoods to rob and steal. Why? Because that's where the good "stuff" is. Why would anyone go out and rob a vagrant under the overpass when they can rob a yuppie on the hill?

The only time I was victimized was in one of the best areas of Salt Lake City. On the other hand, I have ridden my bike alone at night through some of the worst parts of town with no issues.

Strange, but logical if you look a little deeper.
 
Beats me Pilgrim, I learned the hard way, twice! Now I just have platonic relationships and sleep with Miss Mossberg.
 
Been heavily into collecting bayonets lately, down to just my Westinghouse now. Still have all my Mausers though :evil:
 
In the description of "In the Gravest Extreme", in that link, there is a bit that says "Anti-gunners call it 'a guide on how to kill criminals and get away with it'".

God forbid!

Everyone get those "Save the Criminals" bumper stickers!

Sorry. Back on topic I guess. ^_^
 
I had never heard of the CorneredCat site until I read the first post here this morning. I'm fairly new to CCW and ended up spending much of the day reading on that site. I found the ideas articulated there as comprehensive and thoughtful as anything I've read on the subject of firearms. It also helped to fuel a good, constructive conversation with my wife (who is afraid of having firearms around). She may be coming around slowly but surely.

I agree with twitchalot's suggestion: If your wife likes to hold pages in her hands, print out selected articles from CorneredCat. Don't overwhelm her - maybe a couple of articles a week. She may get so interested she'll want to read more than that.
 
I ran into the same issue when my wife and I got our permits. She only wanted to carry in cetain situations. I knew that pushing the issue would only make her more resistant. Then one day she called me and asked me to bring her Glock to the office. Apparently, they were having issues with an unhappy, unreasonable and hot-headed customer. She still doesn't carry all the time, everywhere. But she does carry far more often than she used to.
 
Thanks for all of the responses..!!!

I got her GunVault car safe a few days ago. Got it and "her" Ruger P89 installed in her car. We practiced several times getting the safe (connected to the seat frame with the cable) up to the console and opened. I got her a quick disconnect key chain thingy, so she can leave the rest of the keys in the ignition.

We both feel a lot safer with the pistol in the car. She is very familiar and comfortable with that gun. 17+1 of 9mm...I like how the GunVault's cable slips off and the whole safe can be carried into a hotel room etc... About the size of a hardback book.

I will search for several of these book recomendations.
 
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