I also have a few non-negotiables. Guns are one of them. They are in my DNA and I'm a package deal. I absolutely will not get involved with a woman that is decisively anti-gun or closed minded to guns. From the start she's either gotta be pro-gun or inexperienced/neutral and willing to learn. Otherwise, I don't want to mix DNA with her for life... I've seen A LOT of men get involved, permenently, with ignorant, liberal, closed minded, thick headed women and they regret it for decades.
There is NO reason not to find out on the first date. None. If she is anti-gun, move on. If she's not, it's outta the way. By not asking, you could end up getting involved with her and then being miserable when you learn she volunteers for the Brady bunch!
Trust me, I've dated a few leftist liberal anti-gun women and it can get very heated. Why bother? There are soooo many great PRO GUN women out there MY problem is just picking ONE!
i just lay down the line, either you like guns or get outta here! thats what i say! if she leaves go get another within half an hour! shes gabage!
Yep, at this point in my life my time is too precious. Frankly there are more quality women out there than I have time for. So I don't waste ANY time on the gun issue. Within a short time I know her stance.
You can get there any number of ways. Here are some suggestions:
- ask how she feels about gun control or the 2nd Amendment
- see if she'd like to go to the range or mention that you went to the range last week, etc.
- ask where she grew up. odds are that if it was in a big city she may lean anti-gun, etc.
- ask if she has ever been hunting and if so what was the experience
- discuss self defense and similar issues
- if you can get any insight as to her political leanings, that will be a good indicator (although not perfect) on the gun issue
If she's gun neutal, offer to teach her how to shoot. That normally converts folks.
If she's anti-gun, don't waste any more time with her. God help you if you get locked in with her because there are plenty of men that I've met that had kids with/married the wrong woman. MOVE ON if she's anti-gun. It's a sign of a closed minded helpless person mentality.
If she's capable of independent rational thought, she won't have a problem with guns. If she's anti-gun, then frankly, that's a sign of deeper deficiencies in logic and reasoning that will cause even bigger problems later in the relationship.
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If you search on this topic, there are dozens of threads on this and most of the advice is really good.