coyotehitman
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A stalking protection order. Enforceable nationwide and an arrest is nearly guaranteed if he violates the order, which includes calling after it goes into effect.
As Oleg put it... Clarity on the worth of order of protectionI would sleep in my car or office before sleeping in that house, at least until the RO is served.
This is the same thing I say every time the phrase “restraining order” comes up.
It is VITALLY important to understands that a "restraining order” is.
It is a -legal document- that gives law enforcement legal grounds to arrest and prosecute the violator after (note that word AFTER) they have ignored it.
What a “restraining order” is NOT.
A “restraining order” is NOT a magic shield that will prevent the ex/psycho from coming around. Fully 80% of the time a restraining order actually serves to incite rage. The order needs to be filed as part of the progression of legal action but the period right after one is filed is EXTREMELY DANGEROUS and you must be on HIGH ALERT and you must protect yourself with extra care!
In spite of the “incitement” danger you should still file a restraining order as part of the process of dealing with an ex or psycho, but then you MUST get a notebook and/or a voice recorder and document EVERYTHING. Every phone call, every encounter, date, time, details. I mean everything, even if you start getting hang-up type phone calls you need to document it. EVERYTHING! I simply cannot stress this enough.
Dude, you are living in a house that belongs to some psycho who hates you. Am I right?
DOCUMENT EVERYTHING AND REPORT IT TO THE POLICE, TO YOUR LAWYER (if you don't have one get one) TO YOUR FRIENDS, LANDLORD, NEIGHBORS. DOCUMENT. GET A CAMERA SYSTEM INSTALLED (about $400). Get an Alarm system. Bug your phone and log all of his nutty calls. Continue to report it to the police and lawyer. Get a restraining order. Get a dog. If you have the money, get an attack dog that is trained ($15K) if not anything will do. Don't forget to put a few cameras on the same system in the house, to document unlawful entry.
DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT, GET AS MANY SECURITY LAYERS AS POSSIBLE.
God forbid you have to shoot the SOB, then you are in the clear. A documented case of harassment and borderline assault. If the nutty boy friend was physically abusive, she needs to file charges, that will at least keep him from legally buying a gun...
What calls? Any time she talks to him, she encourages more of this behavor. She needs to cut off contact immediately. If he needs anything he can call her attorney.My gf has agreed to record the calls but we need to buy some equipment first.
Just a hunch, but I suspect the gf may not want to involve the police until after the real-estate deal is done for fear the ex-bf will refuse to sell her his share of the house. There's nothing forcing him to attend the closing, and it's not like he has any incentive to buy her out either. As long as he still owns half the house, he has a tie to her, and he may not want to give that up.
Her mom thinks this is no big deal and I'm over reacting at which point I want to smack her silly.