oldFred
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For the sake of sanity! Just don't do it! For once!
Sounds paranoid to me. Leave it at home.
I say this because my GF hates guns! LOL
Sounds paranoid to me. Leave it at home.
I say this because my GF hates guns! LOL
Concealing on first date?
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PcolaDawg
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Hmmm.
I'll be married for 25 years this summer, so I may not be the right person to guide you in this matter.
With that having been said, if you think you might have to reveal the fact that you carry a gun on your first date, you need to let her know in advance that you carry a concealed weapon on your person at all times that you legally can.
If she freaks out about that, dump her. Then take the money you saved on dinner and a movie and buy some ammo or something.
I'll be married for 25 years this summer, so I may not be the right person to guide you in this matter.
With that having been said, if you think you might have to reveal the fact that you carry a gun on your first date, you need to let her know in advance that you carry a concealed weapon on your person at all times that you legally can.
If she freaks out about that, dump her. Then take the money you saved on dinner and a movie and buy some ammo or something.
runrabbitrun
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Here's why I say don't do it.
Today there are stalkers and nut cases everywhere.
The lady might think you are one if she sees you are carrying.
It may make her feel uncomfortable.
Imagine what could be going through her mind.
Is this guy nuts?
Is he going to rape me?
OMG what have I gotten myself into?
Better hope she's not packing either.
IF she gets real spooked, you may end up shot.
If you are really that concerned about
going out in public naked
(without your piece).
I'd suggest feeling her out on
the whole gun thing BEFORE your first date.
I just meet a nice lady a couple of months ago.
When she first came into my house and saw
my few evil guns on the wall, she was a bit put back.
I edumacated her and now she wants to go
to the range and pop off some caps.
With the price of ammo these days,
it would of been cheaper to take her out to dinner and a movie.
But I'm thrilled she now sees the light and
she wants to learn how to protect herself (and kids) with a firearm.
She's a lefty lib too. Works for the county health dept.
helps illegal all the time, save the whales, owls, kitty cats, and all the PITA stuff.
Hey... I think I just converted an anti and a lefty.
Today there are stalkers and nut cases everywhere.
The lady might think you are one if she sees you are carrying.
It may make her feel uncomfortable.
Imagine what could be going through her mind.
Is this guy nuts?
Is he going to rape me?
OMG what have I gotten myself into?
Better hope she's not packing either.
IF she gets real spooked, you may end up shot.
If you are really that concerned about
going out in public naked
(without your piece).
I'd suggest feeling her out on
the whole gun thing BEFORE your first date.
I just meet a nice lady a couple of months ago.
When she first came into my house and saw
my few evil guns on the wall, she was a bit put back.
I edumacated her and now she wants to go
to the range and pop off some caps.
With the price of ammo these days,
it would of been cheaper to take her out to dinner and a movie.
But I'm thrilled she now sees the light and
she wants to learn how to protect herself (and kids) with a firearm.
She's a lefty lib too. Works for the county health dept.
helps illegal all the time, save the whales, owls, kitty cats, and all the PITA stuff.
Hey... I think I just converted an anti and a lefty.
Zach S
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I'd carry.
Guns were always second or third date material for me. I've heard so many guys complain about their wives hating guns that I didn't want to have to deal with that. If she had a problem with guns, it was easier for both of us to walk away after a few dates. Things get a little complicated when casual dating turns into a relationship.
Guns were always second or third date material for me. I've heard so many guys complain about their wives hating guns that I didn't want to have to deal with that. If she had a problem with guns, it was easier for both of us to walk away after a few dates. Things get a little complicated when casual dating turns into a relationship.
desert gator
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Good points runrabbit. Im not so scared of society that I wont go out with out a gun, and i imagine if she did realize I was carrying she would be spooked. Ill break her in gently and maybe if there is more dates from there she will be more comfortable and knowledgable about ccw. I always have my bench made for piece of mind until she is comfortable. Besides who knows, if I talk to her first she might like the thought of ccw
SpecialKalltheway
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always be yourself, unless you plan on acting like that for the rest of your lives together if you hit it off with your fake persona or if you are just trying to get a lil something something and move on then lying tends to come in handy sometimes 
I've never asked my girlfriend what she thinks about me carrying, but she knows that I do on a daily basis.
I've never asked my girlfriend what she thinks about me carrying, but she knows that I do on a daily basis.
desert gator
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Yeah everyone has that potential to be converted. My ex wife would never let me have a gun. When she got remarried her new husband had a collection and now she goes to the range with him all the time.
runrabbitrun
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desert gator
You already exhibit great character by even asking about this.
(Was just ribbin ya before)...
That fact that you are considerate
enough to think about her feelings on the matter
right here and now, tells me you are probably a stand up guy.
Who knows...
Like me, you may find that you inadvertently
converted another anti or fence sitter.
Good luck what ever you do.
You already exhibit great character by even asking about this.
(Was just ribbin ya before)...
That fact that you are considerate
enough to think about her feelings on the matter
right here and now, tells me you are probably a stand up guy.
Who knows...
Like me, you may find that you inadvertently
converted another anti or fence sitter.
Good luck what ever you do.
desert gator
Member
Thanks run...I appreciate that
SquirrelNuts
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If firearm ownership is a big part of your life, and you are dating to find a mate, then your date (read potential mate) needs to be ok with that part of your lifestyle. One thing I learned from my ex-wife was don't let things come up too late in the game. You don't want to learn that you are not compatible when you are in too deep.
indoorsoccerfrea
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ask her if she'd be willing to go to the range with you. judge her reaction as pro-gun, anti, or neutral.
regardless, if it was me in your shoes, i'd carry. on a first date, i dont plan on it going anywhere anytime fast. i like to take things slow, so unless you plan on losing the pants, carry.
regardless, if it was me in your shoes, i'd carry. on a first date, i dont plan on it going anywhere anytime fast. i like to take things slow, so unless you plan on losing the pants, carry.
Hungry Seagull
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You are either going to find yourself with another person who also carries and grew up around guns and knows how to shoot. Or you are going to find yourself with a person who knows absolutely nothing about guns and does not want to do anything with them. Perhaps even meeting you halfway and learn.
Three doors. Three paths or more complications to the simple question of carrying a gun on a date.
I think about the wife today and how occasionally the weapons come out and get cleaned, ho-hum... like having the dishes put away or the laundry for all the drama associated with it. A non-event in our home.
Three doors. Three paths or more complications to the simple question of carrying a gun on a date.
I think about the wife today and how occasionally the weapons come out and get cleaned, ho-hum... like having the dishes put away or the laundry for all the drama associated with it. A non-event in our home.
I like to think of it like this: If you were just going to go out for an evening by yourself, would you carry? Even if you were going to a nicer area and don't feel you need the weapon, would you carry if it was just you? If so I'd say there's no reason to let another person's presence keep you from doing that (even if it is a first date).
Besides think how much she'll love you if you have to fend off an attacker and save her life
Besides think how much she'll love you if you have to fend off an attacker and save her life
David904
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I say to carry anyway.
Part of the social contract of taking a girl out on a date is that you will do your best to protect her from harm while she is with you. Carrying the means of doing so is part of fulfilling that obligation. If a girl can get pregnant the first time she has sex, then a couple can get attacked the first time they go out - even in a nice part of town.
I wouldn't bring it up unless she discovers it. If she finds out and the response is unfavorable, and you can't salvage the date, be a gentleman and take her home. If she won't ride home with you then simply ensure that she get a safe passage to her home.
Part of the social contract of taking a girl out on a date is that you will do your best to protect her from harm while she is with you. Carrying the means of doing so is part of fulfilling that obligation. If a girl can get pregnant the first time she has sex, then a couple can get attacked the first time they go out - even in a nice part of town.
I wouldn't bring it up unless she discovers it. If she finds out and the response is unfavorable, and you can't salvage the date, be a gentleman and take her home. If she won't ride home with you then simply ensure that she get a safe passage to her home.
CoRoMo
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Carrying a concealed weapon = insanity You are wrong. Quite the opposite.
Carrying a concealed weapon = paranoid You are wrong. Quite the opposite.
DHJenkins
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"I have a confession to make. Normally I carry a gun. I have a permit and everything, but I didn't want to make you nervous on our first date. Why? Well, let me tell you..."
If she doesn't like guns you're going to dump her anyway. If she does like guns, you'll definately earn some 'consideration points' - and points can get you some pretty nifty things.
If she doesn't like guns you're going to dump her anyway. If she does like guns, you'll definately earn some 'consideration points' - and points can get you some pretty nifty things.
Nathanael_Greene
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I say don't carry. Most of the risks are on the downside.
6_gunner
Member
I would carry. Personally, I wouldn't want to date a girl who would freak out over my CCW. I'm definitely not going to marry a woman who has a problem with my guns, so why would I waste my time dating one?
If a girl discovered my CCW and threw a fit, I would be glad that it ended before I wasted too much time and money on her.
I know that love is supposed to transcend all differences, but I can't see myself with a woman who doesn't share my belief in freedom and personal responsibility.
If a girl discovered my CCW and threw a fit, I would be glad that it ended before I wasted too much time and money on her.
I know that love is supposed to transcend all differences, but I can't see myself with a woman who doesn't share my belief in freedom and personal responsibility.
Is that a spare magazine in your pocket?
Maybe girls are like the cops, you should show them your DL with your CHL taped to the back before you "go any further".
When I was in the dating scene, most girls I met were neither pro or anti. I think they just assumed it was a macho guy thing. They never said, "leave that THING at home", but then again they never went to the range with me either.
Most of them first saw it (OK minds back out of the gutter) at my house so seeing it in the car or on my person later wasn't a big deal.
Any women on this board? I think we need help.
Maybe girls are like the cops, you should show them your DL with your CHL taped to the back before you "go any further".
When I was in the dating scene, most girls I met were neither pro or anti. I think they just assumed it was a macho guy thing. They never said, "leave that THING at home", but then again they never went to the range with me either.
Most of them first saw it (OK minds back out of the gutter) at my house so seeing it in the car or on my person later wasn't a big deal.
Any women on this board? I think we need help.
CleverNickname
Member
@DHJenkins: I wouldn't call it a "confession". "Confession" implies you're doing something wrong.
DHJenkins
Member
"I have a confession to make" is a common first date phrase used to introduce any subject.
Don't be so touchy.
Don't be so touchy.
desert gator
Member
After thinking about it I will bring it up non directly before the date. I am entering the police academy in sept, and if she cant hang with me carrying a gun, she definintly wont be cut out for being the wife of a cop.
WNC Seabee
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+1. This is the way I'd do it.
indoorsoccerfrea
Member
maybe not "I have a confession"... you could say "I just want to let you know..." if you're getting tripped up over the wording.
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