Dating, Marriage, and Guns

[xd9fan]

+1 pistol!!!!

Just glad my wife "gets it"

as an ICU RN......its MY business to protect life......conceal carry is just a natural extension of that.

 

[gruvinbass]

yep got it in one

 

[rayra]

'happy tolerance' is an absolute minimum, non-negotiable, determined within the first couple dates (if not sooner). Anything less builds a negative into the relationship.

 

[Hemicuda]

Being that we're both from Michigan, when do i get to meet you, Barbara?

 

[Barbara]

If you have kids, bring them to the Family Day event in Howell on May 20th.

If you don't have kids, steal some and bring them.

 

[Hemicuda]

On may 20th, i'll be working at a "family Fun Shoot" at Gladwin Sporting Clays, put on by the National Wild Turkey Federation, Ogemaw Hills Chapter... (I'm a committee member)

proceeds pay for a kids rifle league, and a kids day at GSC...

I do however visit Howell, on occasion, as a good friend works at Lucas/Vreadi - Kelsey/Hayes...

 

[sigman4rt]

Terrific thread. Interesting side note, I know a married couple. She was born here, He's a NYC transplant and the local weatherman. When they first started dating he found out she had firearms. He was kinda taken aback. Her quote was, "I have guns, they aren't going away, get used to it." Now, many years later, they are still happily married and bit by bit he's coming around.

 

[JohnKSa]

Honestly, when you're dating, you ought to be looking for reasons to dump them.

It's MUCH harder and MUCH more expensive to dump them after you marry them.

 

[farranger]

Told my wife when she was my girlfriend that I was a gun guy and if she could not handle that fine, we could break up. She was fine. A couple years later her dad was all worried about us having guns, he's and old worry wart and she said, on the phone, "dad, we are gun people..." I was proud of her.
Funny thing is, two of his three sons are hunters and shooters and he has never said squat to them. well as far as I know anyhow. go figure.

 

[gopguy]

About 24 years ago the gal I dated in my College days and my mother were talking about how I had too many guns. The young lady said to my mom, "Well after we are married I am making him sell them all". I jumped in to the conversation, saying "My dear you don't want me to choose between you and my guns". The subject was quickly dropped. Amazingly the relationship lasted three years.....I put up with a lot of crap....but she did look like a combination of Marilyn Monroe and Jayne Mansfield...Great rack....Pity those were not brains......:banghead: But I do have very fond memories of her. lol

She is a college professor today at Kent State University in Ohio. Many a pin head in academia where it comes to guns.

 

[Joey2]

Winchester94,
Please look between your legs, is there anything there?

 

[ball3006]

If they don't like my guns or cats.....

then to hell with them. If something should happen to SWMBO, I doubt if I will marry again. About 99.9 women my age have let their body go bad on them so what is the point? I do believe a former co-worker friend of my wife's would move in and tell me to just shut up, life goes on. I trained her for her CHL.............chris3

 

[Semper Fidelis]

Yes & Yes - Tolerance is a virtue. If a potential spouse is going to be "adamantly opposed" (intolerant) about something I enjoy, is important to me, legal and hurts no one - then that bodes ominously for the success of our marriage. It'd be the first of many, many things I'd end up giving up and in the long run would be bitter fruit.

 

[2400]

Thought a couple questions up for your minds to ponder:

(1)Is gun-owning or at least gun-tolerant a requirement for when you're dating someone or having at least a serious relationship (that may lead to marriage) with them?

(2)If they are not too happy with guns, is that an excuse to dump them?

(1)Yes
(2)Yes

 

[Stiletto Null]

1. "Tolerant" isn't quite enough, the girl has to actually be "OK" to "supportive", even if she's not also an enthusiast like me.

2. "Not being terribly happy" with my gun habit isn't necessarily a bad thing, it's kind of useful having someone remind that I really do need to save money for trivial stuff like food and bills. My ex (we hang out a lot, we'll probably wind up dating again in a year or two anyway) wants to try shooting out, it's just not really her thing. And she gives me all kinds of **** about blowing all of my money on guns (FN 49? ) instead of actually saving and stuff.

 

[CAS700850]

My wife and I met in law school, where it was well known in the student body that I was one of that small group of people who (GASP!) owned guns. Then again, since I was atill in the reserves, I went to class in uniform (BDU's) on more than one occassion, and one more than one occassion, had an empty drop holster on my thigh when I walked into class. Talk about getting people's attention. Anyways, she knew about the guns from the beginning. her only rule was that I secure them, for the safety of our children. She's gone shooting a few times, but has other hobbies that interest her. But, hey, it's not like I'm dying to do cross-stitching becuase it interests her.

Honesty up front can and will prevent pain later.

 

[444]

"Is gun-owning or at least gun-tolerant a requirement for when you're dating someone.
No. If I am just going out with them I dont' care. I am not going to change anything I do or think for them, so why should I care. If they do anything that annoys me, I just don't call them again.

.........or having at least a serious relationship (that may lead to marriage) with them?
That is a different story. Then the answer is yes and there would be no exceptions. I don't care if it was the best looking woman in the world that also happened to be the richest woman in the world and was someone that I had more fun with than I had ever had with anyone else it wouldn't matter. If she was a hardcore lefty I wouldn't consider having a serious relationship with her. It is out of the question.