md7
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would you give up any other constitutional right because she wasn't comfortable with it? what if she said "your free speech/voting/religious views make me uncomfortable. why don't you stop saying/voting/believing that?"
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Jim Watson
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Not to make (too) light of a worrisome problem; the best line I ever saw on the subject was in a letter to the editor of a gunzine:
Dear Sirs:
My dear bride of 8 years says that either the guns go or she goes. Please note change of address.
I always liked John Ross' take on women and guns or whatever else a man liked to do that they didn't. But I note that neither he nor I are married.
Dear Sirs:
My dear bride of 8 years says that either the guns go or she goes. Please note change of address.
I always liked John Ross' take on women and guns or whatever else a man liked to do that they didn't. But I note that neither he nor I are married.
Pull the "Drop her like a sack of potatos" lever.
You're a man. The protection of your family and territory is hard-wired in your genes. If she wants to disarm you, then she doesn't really understand this, or she doesn't want you to be a man.
You're a man. The protection of your family and territory is hard-wired in your genes. If she wants to disarm you, then she doesn't really understand this, or she doesn't want you to be a man.
BobCav
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Bandit, that's what my wife told me when we met. She wasn't an anti, just didn't like guns and never grew up around them in Brazil. Then I moved in with her with my one .22 rifle. That was 18 months ago. Since then I've bought 4 CMP rifles and a .45 and she's held them all, but not fired anything yet. She has agreed to go to the range and she has even agreed to get training and a CHP and eventually go to Front Sight with me once she's a bit more comfortable. She even walks beside me when I OC and seeing how responsible I am with the guns has made her more comfortable around them. I've taught her through love, patience and my example that guns aren't evil. If she loves you, she'll listen to what you have to say. If you love her, you'll be patient and give her time to adjust.
BADUNAME13
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The gun won't leave you...
If ya'll are that dissimilar... it ain't worth it.
ORRRRR, you could sell me your collection... cheap!
If ya'll are that dissimilar... it ain't worth it.
ORRRRR, you could sell me your collection... cheap!
hornadylnl
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I think if I ever had to get back into the dating scene, I'd time my date so that we'd be in the vehicle when Rush Limbaugh comes on. Drive around for awhile and see how she reacts to that. If she isn't complaining yet, I'd go straight to the range where I would proceed to pull out several handguns and evil black rifles and get set up to shoot and see how she reacts to that. If she is entirely enthusiastic about everything up to this point, she'd be worth a second date. If not, pack everything up and push her butt out the door as I drive by her house. If we made it through the range session, I think I'd have her fill out a survey and ask her opinion on guns, conservatism, motorcycles, etc. If there were any answers I didn't like, good bye. I wouldn't ever waste my time again on a woman that I had to convince her on all of my beliefs.
To make a long story short, if I ever end up single again, I'll probably stay that way.
To make a long story short, if I ever end up single again, I'll probably stay that way.
Bullseye57
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My second date with my wife was to the shooting range. If she didn't pass that test, there wouldn't have been a third date! We've been married almost twenty years now.
A friend once said to me, "My wife just told me it was either her or my guns, I'm sure gonna miss that ol gal!"
R,
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A friend once said to me, "My wife just told me it was either her or my guns, I'm sure gonna miss that ol gal!"
R,
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Actually, women respect men who think for themselves.
If you are ever single again, you probably won't be for long, hornadylnl.
I think that relationships can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you think you will have to end up with someone who is on a totally different page, and who doesn't really want you for who you are, you will end up with just such a person.
If you won't settle for that, then you won't have to.
If you are ever single again, you probably won't be for long, hornadylnl.
I think that relationships can be a self-fulfilling prophecy. If you think you will have to end up with someone who is on a totally different page, and who doesn't really want you for who you are, you will end up with just such a person.
If you won't settle for that, then you won't have to.
MKEITH
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Man, it takes time. My wife absolutely hated guns before we got married. Trust me on this one, if the love is really there and and you both want to make this thing work, she will come around. Biggest thing is that you have to take baby steps.Leave a couple of gun magazines on the coffe table.take her to a gun show.Have her read a couple of threads on THR(just not this one).If she really wants to be with you, she will come around. Just don't expect it to happen overnight.Be patient and good luck.
hornadylnl
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I remember the dating days. Especially on the first dates, both the man and woman are doing everything they can to be who they are not to impress the other. Think of all the headaches you can save each other if you just lay it all out on the table the first date. You are going to belch and fart in front of her once you are married, why not when you meet? LOL. Just like they say "don't eat Italian on your first date". What, you aren't ever going to eat spaghetti around each other? Can't we be adult enough to know the difference between garlic breathe and "I don't brush my teeth" breath?
hornadylnl
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Actually having her read this thread might be what wakes her up. Once she realizes she is expendable, she'll figure out that she has to give up her irrational fears.
sm
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Next time I get serious with a gal, I am going to give her the keys to house, the truck, and lock box at the bank.
She is going to end up with all this anyway - this just saves time and the lawyers don't get a cut. - Lewis Grizzard
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She is going to end up with all this anyway - this just saves time and the lawyers don't get a cut. - Lewis Grizzard
[paraphrased]
raginrednek
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anti gun girl
take her shootin', see if you can change her mind.
if you can't change her mind, show her the road.
it will only get worse in time and the nagging will be intolerable everytime you add to the collection.
take her shootin', see if you can change her mind.
if you can't change her mind, show her the road.
it will only get worse in time and the nagging will be intolerable everytime you add to the collection.
Blackbeard
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Keep all your guns in the safe and keep it locked. Tell her you got rid of all your guns, but you need the safe because you're using it to store your collection of Pokemon trading cards. You can't show her because they'd be exposed to air and lose value.
KINGMAX
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Number 7 ????
When #7 becomes an orphan,I am willing to sign the adoption papers anytime you are ready. Glad to help a brother out.
When #7 becomes an orphan,
I am willing to sign the adoption papers anytime you are ready. Glad to help a brother out.Lonestar49
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Two-Way street, OR one-way?
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I don't think any chick is worth losing this collection over.
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There you go.
"The guns/dogs/car/truck/anime-collection were here before we met, they'll be here after you leave."
Kharn
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Amen brother!
I never saw a pink bathroom, nor wall paper of flowers, and yucky colors, just wood, brick, pics of mountains, dogs, etc., until after I got married.
It's 2, one-way streets meeting, that if right, becomes a two-way street of give and take, IMO. And the Dogs stayed, along with the guns, but I lost many of my mountain (ski resort) pics, my manly towels, etc.. lol
LS
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I don't think any chick is worth losing this collection over.
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There you go.
"The guns/dogs/car/truck/anime-collection were here before we met, they'll be here after you leave."
Kharn
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Amen brother!
I never saw a pink bathroom, nor wall paper of flowers, and yucky colors, just wood, brick, pics of mountains, dogs, etc., until after I got married.
It's 2, one-way streets meeting, that if right, becomes a two-way street of give and take, IMO. And the Dogs stayed, along with the guns, but I lost many of my mountain (ski resort) pics, my manly towels, etc.. lol
LS
cbsbyte
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Been at this junction many times since I live in a very anti-gun state. Many women i have dated have no experience with firearms, are very much afraid of them, most where unwilling to change, a few did but it took alot of time and effort on both our parts. Yes, being in a serious relationship does require some sacrifices on BOTH sides, ask her what she is willing to give up if you give up the guns. As they say there are plenty of fish in the sea.
If your hobby/beliefs are important to you and she cannot respect that then I would say that this is definately not a good foundation on which to try to build.
More often than not things get MUCH worse from here....there are exceptions to that rule but the odds are pretty long against you.
This is usually the point in time that I invoke my favorite four letter word....NEXT!
There are lots of people out there and there is no reason you should settle with someone that does not respect your beliefs.
More often than not things get MUCH worse from here....there are exceptions to that rule but the odds are pretty long against you.
This is usually the point in time that I invoke my favorite four letter word....NEXT!
There are lots of people out there and there is no reason you should settle with someone that does not respect your beliefs.
bluecowdawg
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one word
Gun:d
Gun:d
Im283
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You need to grow a pair, I dunno what else to say. If she can't love you for who you are then she does not love you, and you are wasting you time.
I wear the pants in my family and my wife says it is alright for me to say so!
I wear the pants in my family and my wife says it is alright for me to say so!
SouthpawShootr
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Tell her to hit the road before you get anymore emotionally involved. Hurts, I know. But if she knows this is your hobby and intends to make you sacrifice it, she's more about controlling you than loving you. Tell her you're not getting rid of your guns, they are an integral part of your life. Tell her what concessions you're willing to make (short of selling anything). See where it goes from there.
My viewpoint: I keep my dog and my guns. We can discuss just about everything else.
My viewpoint: I keep my dog and my guns. We can discuss just about everything else.
Keep the guns and ditch the chick! I'm lucky because my old lady likes guns. Seriously, find yourself a girl that likes the same things you do. I have a sister in law that wants her husbands guns under lock and key all the time. She has a hissy fit if he gets one out to clean it. Now I don't know what she thinks is gonna happen if she wakes up one night with someone standing in the bedroom. I guess she'll ask the felon to wait while she wakes up her husband (my brother) to get his balls and the gun out the safe.
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