Dr. Sandman
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I'd wager that, nine times out of ten, this was not an interview. I sure would have noted their license number though and I would be extra vigilant over the next few weeks. Just some thoughts for future improvement...
It seems to me that if a pair of criminals were planning on robbing somebody they would hang back a ways until ready to attack.
In my personal experience if your "guts" are telling you something is wrong then you should listen. So you drive past your house, maybe spend a few extra minutes observing your situation. What's the harm in that? If you were wrong, well you were still safe. If you were right and ignored the situation....well the newspapers are full of those stories.I'd wager that, nine times out of ten, this was not an interview.
Tell that to us when you're in your late 80's and lived a life completely unscathed by violent crime and then I will agree with you but will still do the same on my part.
I think it was the up-close lights-on-bright attitude of the followers that worried the OP. And... he may have been right. After all, they did turn in behind him. Who's to know?
The problem with that theory is that too many thugs get off on knowing they're scaring/intimidating someone before they attack. In other words.. most of them aren't smart enough to be incognito.
Nor can I see any reason to do so. But that wasn't the recommendation.Posted by JustinJ: Sorry, but passing one's home when there are random cars driving behind them seems just paranoid to me.
The general advice is to not go home if you know you're being followed.
If you don't know you're being followed, but something seems suspicious, it's generally a good idea to make some random turns on known streets (no surprise dead ends) and confirm you really are being followed. Then you know not to go directly home and can summon the cavalry.
It was late afternoon, but it was a really gray, dreary, rain-filled day. Dark clouds had been overhead all day, and it was just dark enough that the headlights on high-beam impeded my vision into the car.He did also note that many other people drive that way in his area. What i don't get however is how high beams limited the OP's ability to see if it was during the day? Also, if the other car was following so closely would he not be turning in immediately behind the OP? He said he saw the car turn in after he stopped and began to unfasten his belt so the car must not have been that close.
Nor can I see any reason to do so. But that wasn't the recommendation.
One more time, from Lee Lapin's Post #17:
It seems so, though we may be assuming too much. It's possible there were no Bad Guys and there was no interview.
Criminals specialize (most aren't smart enough to commit more than one type of crime).
You are correct. Within a few limitations, that is true.Posted by JustinJ: Huh, strange, i thought this was forum where all participants get to post their point of view.
The car pulled into his driveway behind him. The question seems to be one of whether he should have been sufficiently suspicious to try to find out whether he was being followed before allowing himself and his spouse to be put into a vulnerable position.Based on the OP it does not sound at all to me like he was being followed which is why i called it a random car.
See the OP--yes, they went back the way they came.ceetee, do you recall if the car behind you backed out and went in the reverse direction?
He may have just decided to turn around and it sounds like there aren't many places on the road to do so.
JustinJ
Huh, strange, i thought this was forum where all participants get to post their point of view. It never occurred to me that the right opinions are only the ones in agreement with those of the mods. Heck, why not just change the format so that people post questions and you and whoever you see fit answer the them?
Based on the OP it does not sound at all to me like he was being followed which is why i called it a random car. But don't worry, in spite of your snarky comment i've taken your advice to heart. I'm actually working on a batcave style rear entrance to my home but just to be extra cautious i'll only use it when the street has been empty for at least 15 minutes. Oh, gota run, the workers are here to install the fake boulder/garage door. Something just dawned on me though. The contractor will know about my secret entrance. Should i let him live or just keep him locked up in the basement after work is complete?
ceetee, do you recall if the car behind you backed out and went in the reverse direction? He may have just decided to turn around and it sounds like there aren't many places on the road to do so. Also, driveways on country roads sometimes can be hard to distinguish from public roads when the houses they lead to aren't in view.
That is a dangerous, and in my experience false, assumption.
Uh, no. You didn't pass. They were either not criminals or they lost interest.
1. You led them to your home.
2. You sat in a parked car on the "X" for a period of time. At their mercy. Had the wanted to get out and flank you, they had the advantage. You were stationary, outnumbered, potentially outgunned, and with your back to them.
I'd say you got lucky.
In the future, drive on to another location. If the threat is real, drive to the police station. Have your gun drawn and ready.
And in my neck-of-the-woods, based on my true experience, this is 99% accurate and not an assumption.
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Huh, strange, i thought this was forum where all participants get to post their point of view. It never occurred to me that the right opinions are only the ones in agreement with those of the mods. Heck, why not just change the format so that people post questions and you and whoever you see fit answer the them?
...but YOU were the one who call such actions PARANOID... When someone follows your car into your driveway and you're weirded out by it is not paranoia.
Think about this for a moment, please. Of all the driveways, the guys following decided to pull into Ceetee's and just sit there? If this doesn't sound out of the ordinary, I'm not sure what does. Could it have been something completely innocent? Of course! But to call such behavior paranoid? No way.
Again, one would not pass one's driveway unless there were some indication of something that was something not quite right. I would not refer to doing so as an indication of paranoia, however. Nor did the OP say that there was no such indication; he said he was in Condition Orange.Posted by JustinJ: What i said is passing one's driveway when there is a random car driving behind them is paranoid.
Was there anything that the OP did not notice that he should have noticed? Was there anything that he did notice that should have made him decide differently?Based on the the OP's description of what happened before he pulled in it sounded like a random car to me.
Orange =Specific alert. Something is not quite right and has your attention. Your radar has picked up a specific alert. You shift your primary focus to determine if there is a threat (but you do not drop your six). Your mindset shifts to "I may have to shoot that person today", focusing on the specific target which has caused the escalation in alert status. In Condition Orange, you set a mental trigger: "If that person does "X", I will need to stop them". Your pistol usually remains holstered in this state. Staying in Orange can be a bit of a mental strain, but you can stay in it for as long as you need to.
Rob, kidnap, accuse, settle a score, whatever....Sure, its also possible they were looking for somebody to rob but had that been their original intent i don't see anything that would have made them change their minds.
Again, one would not pass one's driveway unless there were some indication of something that was something not quite right. I would not refer to doing so as an indication of paranoia, however. Nor did the OP say that there was no such indication; he said he was in Condition Orange.
Posted by the OP: ...I wasn't really in Condition Red - more like Orange - when I pulled off into my driveway.
Posted by JustinJ: He also said that people frequently drive that way on the road which indicates to me there was no such indication something was not quite right.
Nor do I, and I agree.Personally, i don't think in color codes but to me a normal event is not time to elevate one's concern status.
Good.Constantly looking for threats, continuous fear of crime or simply not doing what one wants to are things i will never do.
Should that not be determined by whether or not one "in the scenario described" has reason to be in "Condition Orange"?IMO driving past one's house in the scenario described is being influenced by fear in a way i have no interest in.