My wife, the anti-gunner, asked if I was carrying.

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I love it when you can get an anti converted. They're like ex smokers or newly born again christians...full of whee and vinegar!

My wife was an anti until we met, and she wanted me to teach her how to shoot. Once she smelled the gunpowder, she was absolutely hooked.
Since I am a big fan of 1911's and its what she learned on, she surprized me by buying one of her own and did it by herself-something she was very proud of. She wasn't very interested in rifles, and the one time she tried my 870 12 gauge, I got a dirty look from her. Not too fond of the recoil, ya see.

We had been married about 5 years and my company decided to send me to Saudi Arabia for some months. She would never keep her pistol loaded in the house despite my recommendations, but knew I kept the 870 with a full mag on an empty chamber. She was okay with that, being as how it was on my side of the bed. Come time for me to leave, I tried once again to instruct her on the shotgun, but could tell she wasn't paying much attention.

About a week after I left the states, I get a call at about 0300, and my wife telling me the dog went nuts barking and charging around the house. Never did figure out what he was raising cain about, but she grabbed the 12 gauge and chambered a round when the commotion started. Good Girl!

The problem was that she could not remember how to release the bolt in order to extract the loaded round! I tried to tell her, but she was not understanding, so I called my deer hunting buddy across town and asked him if he would go over to the house and unload the shotgun!

The first thing I did when I got home was grab a bottle of her brightest red nail polish and painted the release..........

Herself-you are blessed by not having to put up with that moron. Women get a bad rap sometimes with the guys if they show any inclination or especially skill in weapons handling. My wife was a big example. When she got the bug, we would go twice a week to practice at a minimum, and I just about wore my press out trying to keep up with the ammo demands. Once she got the hang of it, some of my buddies stopped going to the range with us because she was beating the pants off them on the target boards. And this was not by just a little bit, either.

If she had a fault, it was that she was so competitive and used to get frustrated that she could not get the groups I made. Guess I get no credit for the 30 odd years I'd been shooting....oh well. I guess God needed a gate guard so He took her 3 years ago this month. I'd be real leery of sneaking up on the pearly gates:what:
 
My wife is not an anti, but she wanted to know when I'm carrying. She used to ask just to make sure. Ever since we had a little "run in" with someone in small town CT that appeared to be on something not legal, she doesn't ask any more...she KNOWS ;) Just goes to show that even in small relatively "safe" town, things can happen. One good outcome has been she definately ready to get her permit...just in case. :D
 
I'd get her trained real quick to NOT ask any questions of the sort reguarding your gun while carrying or if you are carrying

In a bank being held up "do you have your gun" "don't take your gun out" etc

and you will be short a few brain cells if the crooks aren't all bark.
 
Another true anecdote. I married a pretty, young girl nearly 43 years ago who was raised in a home without guns. She wasn't anti, just didn't know anything about them. I still have that pretty girl, although neither of us are young now. I kept a loaded .357 S&W revolver for home defense. One night I came home earlier than planned from a gun club meeting and when I walked in, my young bride was holding the S&W in both hands, pointing down, waiting to see if it was me. After that, I wasn't quite as worried about her when she was alone.

Good shooting and be safe.
LB
 
Back when my wife was my fiance we had a "heated" discussion about why I carried. I think she was more mad that I had been carrying for months before she found out. I was wondering how long it would be before she figured it out. Maybe not the best way to do it. I posted about it here

http://www.thehighroad.org/showthread.php?t=163917

The worst part of it was that she outed me at her father's funeral, twice! Anyway, after the discussion she realized that I wan't going to stop carrying and has accepted it. She's actually asked me a few times if I'm carrying the "bitch" as she calls it. lol A lot of people told me to dump her, but we've been married a few months now and its been pretty smooth sailing. Gun wise that is. ;)
 
"Another true anecdote. I married a pretty, young girl nearly 43 years ago who was raised in a home without guns. She wasn't anti, just didn't know anything about them. I still have that pretty girl, although neither of us are young now. I kept a loaded .357 S&W revolver for home defense. One night I came home earlier than planned from a gun club meeting and when I walked in, my young bride was holding the S&W in both hands, pointing down, waiting to see if it was me. After that, I wasn't quite as worried about her when she was alone."


Wow LHB1. That was a real test of True Love! Lucky you passed it!!

[Quotes still down]
 
I personally hate paying over $50 a month for a stupid life insurance policy.

If ever needed, my family will appreciate my decision to do the thing I hate.

Your wife may have just begun to see the end's relationship to the means.

Rich
 
Herself:

Your experience is not unique...

My wife was engaged to a guy kinda like that. He was all into firearms & hunting, but wanted her to stay out of "his" hobbies, no matter how much she asked. She eventually dumped him for other personality defects.

I, OTOH, took my then-GF shooting as soon as I had her trained up to be safe with a firearm. A gal has to be able to take care of herself, in my opinion.

It all turned out well:
1. I got a wife, a son, a daughter due St Paddy's Day, a dog (wife's when we married), and a shooting buddy.
2. My wife got a son, a daughter, and a husband who doesn't like to watch much TV and never watches sports.
3. Ex-fiance got a boot and plenty of free time.
 
My wonderful wife, and I do mean wonderful, was also raised without guns. When we met she knew I hunted and owned a farm. She didn't really mind the guns I had. I taught her to shoot a single shot .410 to protect the farm animals from criters and she has killed a possum or two in the chicken yard. She now has a .22 nine-shot revolver of her own. But she does not carry. When we go out, especially if we are going to St. Louis to visit the relatives, she always asks me if I have my "little friend". I do and her family knows I carry and it has never been a problem with them. I still need to watch the new sister-in-law, she is a sheeple from W. Germany and spent way too many years in the Republik of California. We don't see her much and it really hasn't come up, but it is bound to.:eek:
 
I have given the wrong impression and one that is very unfair to my ex. I have no idea for sure why he chose to exit the relationship. It's just weird it happened relatively soon after we both started shooting, after nearly 15 years together though the usual ups and downs.

He is not that bad a guy in many ways. It just puzzles me. I feel like maybe I crowded him out or something.

--Herself
 
Not sure how long ago in the past this happened Herself, but it sounds to me like you are looking for some answers. Or as you hear on TV, closure. :rolleyes: My only advise is that you shouldn't worry about it. You'll probably never find the answer as to why someone all of a sudden became a jerk and split. Better to look for that someone, when you're ready, that will be your future.
 
Kind of off the subject, but RockRivr1 said:

Not sure how long ago in the past this happened Herself, but it sounds to me like you are looking for some answers. Or as you hear on TV, closure.
Herself, if the deal is bothering you, go find out. I didn't, and had a friend who is a real liberal blissninny after me to get "closure" on an affair which had ended ten years before.

Once I did, I was free. Probably doesn't apply in your case, but it worked for me...
 
Advice on small arms and relationship counseling all in a one stop shop.

How can you not love this forum?
 
Herself, as I can attest, you are a very strong willed person that does not hesitate to expess their opinions when given the proper forum. I wonder if maybe getting into something like shooting, which you feel strongly about, brought this side of you more into view of your ex. Alot of men are very threatened by women who can not only think for themselves but do not require the validation of others to feel their opinion is worth while. If that was the case you are probably better off without him. Maybe we should add a match making thread to THR for gunnies to find each other...maybe call it "Gunnies seeking bunnies" or something like that. :)
 
Gunnies seeking Bunnies. Hummmmmm, I like it! I mean, I'd like it if I was single that is. Us married folk have no right to think about bunnies. :scrutiny:
 
Rockrivr1, just because you've ordered doesn't mean you can't still look at the menu! :evil: I'm married, but I'm not dead! :D

Sorry nothing to do with the thread. :neener:
 
This is very true distra, but getting caught looking at another bunnie stew will put you in the deep fryer. Best invention every to avoid this is dark sunglasses and your ability to not move your head in the direction the bunnie is walking. :cool:
 
Good story, something similar happened with my brother and I. I'm older than him by two years, but about four inches shorter and eighty pounds lighter. Most people don't know we're brothers unless we tell them. So naturally he likes to rub in the fact that he's considerably stronger. That's OK, because I'm old enough to have a CCW permit and he's not. :neener: We both work at the same sporting goods store, and one night before we got to work, he put his back out, badly. He couldn't stand up straight or breathe right. As we were preparing to leave, he said offhand that he hoped no one tried to mug us as we tried to leave, because he was defenseless. I just smiled and said "Don't worry, I got your back." He reached over and patted the Kel-Tec riding on my right hip with the back of his hand and said "Yeah, I guess you do." It's nice to be able to inspire that kind of confidence in people.
 
herself said:
Here's the thing: He's a gunny, too! I'm concerned that it was off-putting to him that I learned to shoot, that it may have felt to him like I was taking away from his very natural role as the protector. All I wanted was to be his back-up, to share the hobby. But who knows. Perhaps it's totally unrelated. We were together as good as married for 16 years, time enough for most men to get bored.

That doesn't sound like equality to me. My SO is not my back-up, she's my partner. There's a very specific difference and I think not only were you slighting yourself a little there, but you're definitely better off in the long run.


And I think I only got asked the "are you packing" question once, after that it was of course presumed that I would be at all times unless I divulge otherwise.

Bless her heart for putting up with me and my refusal to go anywhere my guns are not welcome, it makes vacationing a real pain in the rear.
 
Call me crass if you will but I'd have told her, "oops, oh crap! I forgot to grab it this morning", and let her sweat the load a bit. Maybe that'd help her get it a little better.

Muhahahahaha!

I would of. :D
 
My wife doesn't care for guns but understands that I do and never complains about my interest in them. To get to the point, the other morning we needed to go to our storage unit very early in the a.m. (before 6) to meet some workers there. When we got there we had to wait outside and it was still rather dark and desolate, this is in a very rough downtown area. As it was we noticed a few guys, looked to be homeless, walking our way and lo and behold my wife asks, "do you have on you what I think you do", to which I replied, "of course". These guys meant us no harm but she was very glad that I was carrying. I was rather amused to say the least and find it very interesting how people that don't like guns all of a sudden feel very differently about them when they feel threatened.

No crap, eh? :rolleyes:

Gee, i dont need a gun..oops, i just got raped...sure wish i had a gun!
Ugh, what a bad day.
 
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