Is your wife looking for a gun with a specific safety because she intends to use the gun loaded, hammer down, and safety on?
If so, is she looking to have the safety on because a gun makes her nervous and mentally having something called a “safety” just “feels good”?
I ask because I went through this with my wife and now I am hearing in from a friends wife. My wife did not come from a gun owning family and so she though that if a gun had a “safe” position, not using it would leave the gun in an “unsafe” position.
But a few trips to the range where she used the safety taught her that when she used it, she never was sure if it was on or off when she wanted to shoot, and showed her that fumbling with it takes a few seconds, when the point of having a gun for protection was that when you need a gun, you need it NOW. If you have time to play around with a gun you may have time to leave instead.
She saw the light, and saw that with the hammer down, that gun was safe because there was no realistic way the hammer was going to cock itself without her knowing.
My opinion is that gun safety’s kill. I saw a tv show about police training. The officers had been directed to carry with the safety on, but in shootouts where being found dead with the gun drawn but with the safety on. Some of the officers had bent the trigger mechanism they had pulled the triggers so hard.
The lesson was that in times of stress like your going to experience if you need the gun for self defense, your mind and body are going to act without a great deal of though. If your wife gets caught with the safety on, she might end up just like the cops in the show.