The term "heavy loads" may confuse some people. The common definition of a heavy load would be one that is loaded to a high pressure level.
Some people might consider a heavy bullet to be a heavy load. If it was loaded to a high pressure level, I would agree.
Light bullets actually wear more than heavy bullets, if the pressures are the same. More powder, more heat, more erosion.
Either Smith or Ruger will stand up to a lot of "heavy loads", (must be sane loads), but the 125 grain loads are rougher on guns than the original 158 grain loads.
Cast bullets are easier on bores than jacketed bullets, (assuming they are sized, lubricated properly, and cast of the proper alloy).
Now, with the introduction of Lil'Gun powder, it seems regular velocity loads are possible with lower pressures. Theoretically, this should improve longevity, but I do not know if this will work out in practice.