Quoheleth
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Need some feedback on this situation at church.
A woman at church is in the middle of a nasty separation. Her husband moved out but frequently enters the home when she's away at work. As the house is jointly theirs (divorce is not even begun) the cops have told her, basically, unless he physically threatens her she cannot even get a restraining order. She can change the locks, but as it's his house too, he legally can break in -- just like if he locked himself out of the house.
Saturday, he did one of his sudden appearances. Scared the woman badly. According to her, he made a rather veiled threat by referencing the Garth Brooks song with the line, "Momma's in the grave yard and Poppa's in the pen."
A friend advised her to get a handgun and a CCL. She doesn't have the money for either.
For a moment, and just a moment, I thought of loaning her a pistol for self-defense. As fast as the thought entered my mind, I stopped it -- that's all sorts of trouble waiting, and none of it will be good for me. I also fleetingly thought about selling her a handgun. Nope...not any better. In the two seconds these thoughts flittered through my brain, she said something about she wouldn't even know how to use it if she had it. Something clicked...
I've taught several women to shoot. Three have gone on to get their Texas CHLs. One just wanted to learn what to do "just in case." None were perceiving any personal threat.
I am not a trained instructor. I am a gun enthusiast who enjoys helping others learn a little bit about shooting, gun safety, and how they work. Would I be out of my mind, knowing what I know about her situation, to offer to take her to the range and give her some basic shooting lessons? She would use my guns at the range only, and none would leave my possession. What she does with that experience is up to her: purchase a handgun, take an official, professionally-taught class, or walk away from guns completely.
Is this opening myself up for all sorts of liability? Is my pastoral desire to help this woman protect herself and her kids clouding my better judgement?
[The only advice I gave her yesterday is that, in Texas, she can legally carry a loaded firearm in her home and in her car without a license and that if she is gravely fearful for her life (repeated those four words several times) she is justified in lethal use of the gun. I also carefully said "I am not a lawyer, and a lawyer might tell you differently."]
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A woman at church is in the middle of a nasty separation. Her husband moved out but frequently enters the home when she's away at work. As the house is jointly theirs (divorce is not even begun) the cops have told her, basically, unless he physically threatens her she cannot even get a restraining order. She can change the locks, but as it's his house too, he legally can break in -- just like if he locked himself out of the house.
Saturday, he did one of his sudden appearances. Scared the woman badly. According to her, he made a rather veiled threat by referencing the Garth Brooks song with the line, "Momma's in the grave yard and Poppa's in the pen."
A friend advised her to get a handgun and a CCL. She doesn't have the money for either.
For a moment, and just a moment, I thought of loaning her a pistol for self-defense. As fast as the thought entered my mind, I stopped it -- that's all sorts of trouble waiting, and none of it will be good for me. I also fleetingly thought about selling her a handgun. Nope...not any better. In the two seconds these thoughts flittered through my brain, she said something about she wouldn't even know how to use it if she had it. Something clicked...
I've taught several women to shoot. Three have gone on to get their Texas CHLs. One just wanted to learn what to do "just in case." None were perceiving any personal threat.
I am not a trained instructor. I am a gun enthusiast who enjoys helping others learn a little bit about shooting, gun safety, and how they work. Would I be out of my mind, knowing what I know about her situation, to offer to take her to the range and give her some basic shooting lessons? She would use my guns at the range only, and none would leave my possession. What she does with that experience is up to her: purchase a handgun, take an official, professionally-taught class, or walk away from guns completely.
Is this opening myself up for all sorts of liability? Is my pastoral desire to help this woman protect herself and her kids clouding my better judgement?
[The only advice I gave her yesterday is that, in Texas, she can legally carry a loaded firearm in her home and in her car without a license and that if she is gravely fearful for her life (repeated those four words several times) she is justified in lethal use of the gun. I also carefully said "I am not a lawyer, and a lawyer might tell you differently."]
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