That is not a good reason. It is not about you. It is about whether you can help the situation.
You're reading something into my statements that isn't there. Never said I'd base my decision to act or not on that, though it is a consideration. I never said that a rational decision NOT to act was out of the question.
GEM said:
As I said before, modern psychological techniques can deal with the acute stress disorders and the long term ones like PTSD. Others see such from being raped, watching loved ones killed, making tragic mistakes (such as a mistaken police shooting). Sometimes men especially are unwilling to seek help because of their social viewpoints and macho attitudes. This is a terrible mistake. One should read up on such in books like Deadly Force Encounters by Arthwhol or Klinger's In the Kill Zone.
I've read Deadly Force Encounters, but I haven't read Klingers - Regardless, you assume a lot if you think I wouldn't seek help dealing with something I found too difficult to deal with on my own - I'm a man, but I'm not superman, and I know when I'm in too deep. That said, modern psychological techniques are overblown in my opinion - 90% of the "therapists" I've met, discussed things with, or had experience with in any capacity only want to prescribe medications and get paid.
GEM said:
I've worked with folks who deal with cops after deadly force encounters, it can work. Thus are you saying that if you make a rational decision not to intervene, you are not able to take the steps needed to deal with the psychological consequences. Thus, you do the irrational or suffer psychological problems later which hurt yourself or impact your loved ones?
That is being weak.
It would behoove you to stop assuming things about me, and further it's rude to insult someone in the manner you just did and I don't appreciate it. I never said that I wouldn't be able to deal with the consequences of a rational decision not to intervene - like I said, I'm not about to go charging across the mall to the other end in order to be a hero, that's not what it's about - I said that I would prefer to act and face any consequences IF I WERE IN THE POSITION TO AND HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO. That doesn't imply that I would make an irrational decision, nor does it imply that I would suffer from psychological problems because I wasn't in a position to help.
GEM said:
My subtle point is that saying you would act because you will feel bad - doesn't really work. Act to save others or yourself - that's the choice.
Again - I didn't say I'd act because I'd feel bad if I didn't, I said I'd prefer to act and face the consequences either good or bad, versus not acting and spending the rest of my life wondering what might have happened.
GEM said:
As far as always jumping in - that's not supported by reality. You might jump into a swimming pool to save a kid. You probably wouldn't jump into a lava pool or dive over Niagara Falls. Actions to save others which result in your death usually have some degree of success probability. The decision is complex and folks ignore the complexity for the cliches at times.
Once again - you assume that my statements mean I'd always do one or the other - I stated SEVERAL times that EACH UNIQUE SITUATION DICTATES THE RESPONSE. Please read what I say before trying to put meaning to my words that simply isn't there.
Edit to add: By the way - You might consider that people are, by nature, creatures of emotion. You might also take the time to get to know a person before you get all high and mighty and make ridiculous implications regarding an individual's emotional stability before you start advising them on whether or not they should be carrying a firearm - you don't know me, and it's not your place to decide whether or not I'm emotionally stable enough to carry a gun (which for your peace of mind, I'm quite emotionally stable and have been judged so more than once by actual professionals in the mental health field throughout my life for various reasons that are none of your business)