Cousin Mike
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My scenario.
I think that the problem is that I have a complete situation in my head and I haven't let anyone else in on it as completely and totally as I should... Here's MY scenario, in the hopes that maybe if I type it ALL out, you might understand where I am coming from.
SO...
You and your wife are driving down the highway, having an argument about something. Let's say the bills. The argument gets heated. You're yelling at eachother. You pull over so that you don't wreck the car.
The arguing gets worse. Thw wife keeps bringing up stuff that you're not even talking about. You're trying to make a point. You don't have the money to pay for this bill, and it's serious. She refuses to listen. You get out of the car, because you need some air.
The wife continues to yell at you, saying whatever it is that she's saying, and so you throw the bills into the car and say something like "Well, damnit, you pay for it all then! I don't have the money!"
or whatever... if you're rich, and you don't argue about bills, think of something. If you have a woman, I'm sure you can think of SOMETHING you two have argued about in the car.
So... you throw the bills into the car and sit outside for a second to calm down. You notice a car turns around and approaches you. Some guy gets out of the car asking if you just hit your wife... You tell him to buzz off, and then he starts asking your wife, directly - as if he doesn't believe you. Now you've just had some guy you've never seen before basically accuse you of being a woman beater, and then try to get your wife to verify his assumptions.
You're not going to get angry at that kind of suggestion???
Bull...
You're already angry at her... So some stranger comes around suggesting that you're a wife beater, and you're already angry. You expect me to believe that you'd hold on to that temper of yours? Are you sure? What if you had a bad week at work? What if something else is wrong at home? What if this guy is confrontational in his approach, to top it all off?
So lets get off the self-righteous BS. It might be easy to try and make me sound like a caveman for admitting that certain things anger me, but maybe I'm just honest with myself. I have limits. Everyone does. It might be cool to come in a forum and talk like icewater runs through your veins, but most men aren't built to handle that kind of insult.
And if you'd never even consider hitting a woman, then being accused of doing just that is exactly how you would see that accusation... as an insult.
So...
You tell me... if that situation turns ugly - if a gun is drawn, or a fistfight breaks out - who was wrong? The man who intervened on a mistaken assumption, or the couple for defending themselves from an obviously mistaken and confrontational stranger with a gun and a can of pepper-spray?
I don't know about you, but my freedom is too precious to involve myself in something that potentially tragic on an assumption. There are too many variables in that situation - and as already said... If you have to ask yourself "...am I justified?"
...then you're probably not.
I think that the problem is that I have a complete situation in my head and I haven't let anyone else in on it as completely and totally as I should... Here's MY scenario, in the hopes that maybe if I type it ALL out, you might understand where I am coming from.
SO...
You and your wife are driving down the highway, having an argument about something. Let's say the bills. The argument gets heated. You're yelling at eachother. You pull over so that you don't wreck the car.
The arguing gets worse. Thw wife keeps bringing up stuff that you're not even talking about. You're trying to make a point. You don't have the money to pay for this bill, and it's serious. She refuses to listen. You get out of the car, because you need some air.
The wife continues to yell at you, saying whatever it is that she's saying, and so you throw the bills into the car and say something like "Well, damnit, you pay for it all then! I don't have the money!"
or whatever... if you're rich, and you don't argue about bills, think of something. If you have a woman, I'm sure you can think of SOMETHING you two have argued about in the car.
So... you throw the bills into the car and sit outside for a second to calm down. You notice a car turns around and approaches you. Some guy gets out of the car asking if you just hit your wife... You tell him to buzz off, and then he starts asking your wife, directly - as if he doesn't believe you. Now you've just had some guy you've never seen before basically accuse you of being a woman beater, and then try to get your wife to verify his assumptions.
You're not going to get angry at that kind of suggestion???
Bull...
You're already angry at her... So some stranger comes around suggesting that you're a wife beater, and you're already angry. You expect me to believe that you'd hold on to that temper of yours? Are you sure? What if you had a bad week at work? What if something else is wrong at home? What if this guy is confrontational in his approach, to top it all off?
So lets get off the self-righteous BS. It might be easy to try and make me sound like a caveman for admitting that certain things anger me, but maybe I'm just honest with myself. I have limits. Everyone does. It might be cool to come in a forum and talk like icewater runs through your veins, but most men aren't built to handle that kind of insult.
And if you'd never even consider hitting a woman, then being accused of doing just that is exactly how you would see that accusation... as an insult.
So...
You tell me... if that situation turns ugly - if a gun is drawn, or a fistfight breaks out - who was wrong? The man who intervened on a mistaken assumption, or the couple for defending themselves from an obviously mistaken and confrontational stranger with a gun and a can of pepper-spray?
I don't know about you, but my freedom is too precious to involve myself in something that potentially tragic on an assumption. There are too many variables in that situation - and as already said... If you have to ask yourself "...am I justified?"
...then you're probably not.