Dating, Firearms and Reality

[jakemccoy]

I'm 35. I've always said I'll never date a woman who's anti-gun. That seems like a good principle...in theory. Then there's reality. Have you ever made a dating exception for an anti-gun person who's just too good to pass up? How did it work out for you?

 

[Duke of Doubt]

It's not possible. One step into my den, and they'd run screaming out the door.

 

[Caliban]

depends on how anti-gun she is. my gf says she doesn't want to own a gun, but she sees that i enjoy it and it doesn't bother her. works just fine for us. i can go shoot holes in paper while she gets apple-flavored martinis with her girlfriends.

the real friction comes when two people have fundamentally different views about how the world works. that is how "we agree to disagree" when you're dating becomes "irreconcilable differences" when you divorce. i could not be with anyone who truly believed that guns were evil.

i once tried to date a vegetarian. i told myself "whatever, she can eat what she wants, it's not my business". it was fine for a while. but as we got closer, the fundamental difference of opinion became problematic. it did not end well.

 

[WardenWolf]

I'm a realist. Anti-gun people are out of touch with reality. That inherently creates an insurmountable conflict.

 

[Justin]

All of the women I've dated were neutral, leaning pro, or outright pro. I'm serious enough about my shooting that dating someone who's antagonistic to the fact that I shoot regularly is out of the question.

 

[RandyB]

Married to one for ten years. Divorced, single and happier. Wouldn't recommend it. The whole idea of guns, self-sufficency and the right to take care of onesself and family is a fundamental way of viewing the world. You'll find more problems than just the gun issue. Best of luck either way you choose.

 

[coloradokevin]

Depends on the degree of their views. I have dated women who "don't like guns" on a number of occasions in the past (even married one of them). All of them ended up being gun owners after dating me.

But, some people have views that are just too far outside of the lines to work with my personality. Those types of women I could not have dated.

 

[Duke of Doubt]

I'll go further, and say that if and when a woman announces herself as a gun-grabber, any sexual attraction I may have had goes "PPFFFFFFFFTTTHHHT!"

 

[Stealth4002]

???

Relationships are give and take.

Just depends on HOW pro gun you are and how anti-gun she is.

GUNS ARE JUST AS IMPORTANT AS SEX TO ME SO??? (well i think about both equally so that's just my rationality)

any way, the problem might be the age old $ issue. If it gets serious will she be ok with you bringing home a $700+ new toy that she doesent believe in having around in the first place.

my wife is pro gun and she still has a issue when its gun buyin or ammo buyin time.

it was a major issue for me that i addressed up front every time. ANTI GUN means ANTI ME so down the road i would travel.

but sometimes "i dont like guns" just means ive not been around them enough!

Good Luck Brother!

 

[cleardiddion]

Heh, my current girlfriend used to be a semi anti-gunner. Y'know, thought that we should only have sporting arms and all that jazz.

However nowadays, she'll see a case in the trunk or come over and see all of my collection lying about and she'll just smile and ask when I'm going to go shooting next.

 

[Grey_Mana]

Not a problem. Get her to fall in love with you, and she'll decide her anti-views aren't important. People change religions out of love; certainly they'll change vague uninformed opinions for love.

 

[Wayne02]

I'd date an anti-gun women just for the short-term pleasure and companionship, but I'd never marry a women who was even mildly anti-gun in any way shape or form. Life is way too short to go through it with a life partner who is at odds with my strongly held basic beliefs and values. It simply makes no sense what so ever.

 

[waterhouse]

I've never met someone who could logically and rationally explain why they were against guns. I try not to hang out with, much less date, people who don't have some semblance of logic and reason.

I've dated several (and married one) who were neutral to guns.

 

[Bearhands]

Have you ever made a dating exception for an anti-gun person who's just too good to pass up?

The only thing too good to pass up is a BRAND NEW in box S&W Model 19

Seriously..
Sound her out.... if she is truly anti-gun...... I doubt very much that you'll find happiness in the long run..... You can't change people (or a skunks stripes)

Best of Luck.

 

[Rush]

I don't normally date women at all. But if I did, the minute I discovered she was anti-gun she'd be history. People who would deny me the right to protect myself are evil, and my enemy.

 

[DocBoCook]

I dated one who was afraid, not necessarily "anti". Now she wants to go to the range and owns her own. They can be converted. As long as they aren't closed minded

 

[bobinfl]

Have her watch this video and observe her reaction. It will give you an indication as to how much of an anti she is. Often they will see the light. If not, enjoy the moment, but don't expect it to last.

http://splodetv.com/video/criminals-gun-control

 

[alaskanativeson]

Not a problem. Get her to fall in love with you, and she'll decide her anti-views aren't important. People change religions out of love; certainly they'll change vague uninformed opinions for love.

Wow Grey, I hope that was sarcasm.

I may be different than many, but to me a marriage is the most important decision a person will make in this life. The person I'm marrying will be the best friend and constant companion I will have with me for most of my life. We will have some differences becauseeveryone does, but it's important to me that we see eye to eye on many philosophical levels. Life is difficult enough without having to add extra quarrels with your mate. Religion was a lock for me. Outdoors enthusiast, dog lover, and gun afficionado. Those were things on which I would not compromise. There's just too many wonderful girls out there to settle.

We're in our 22nd year together. Each one keeps getting better than the previous one.

 

[wyocarp]

Well, I'm married, but my 17 year old son is dating a gal who has a couple of strong democratic parents that have no need for guns. It was funny the other night when her mother stepped in while coming to pick up her daughter. I was wearing my usual twin glocks and she sat her hand on a table by the door that had a .44 magnum sitting on it. It was funny as she realized what was sitting there, she quickly pulled her hand back.

We had her parents over recently after a hockey game and my wife wondered if I could tone it down just a little. She thought that two visible guns on me and an NRA cap was going to be too much for them. They did just fine and no one got hurt.

 

[Robocop]

Back in the day,it wasn't new to date an anti-gun girlfriend since I lived in New York. My first wife was anti-gun until I took her shooting.

Currently,I have nothing to worry about,my current wife is from Texas and is very Pro-gun.

 

[ThrottleJockey]

To WYOCARP: You bring up an interesting point. "Democratic parents that have no need for guns".
Isn't it funny how they were only allowed the option of being that way BECAUSE of guns. And how quickly they change their views when guns are used to defend the freedom in other countries. Or when they are faced with a situation that requires a gun. It's like all the athiests that suddenly see the light at the last minute!

 

[Golden Hound]

Would I hide my guns in my closet long enough to at least be able to sleep with an anti? Yeah. Would I date her over the long term? Not if she didn't change her mind, but I think I could get her to see the light.

I really think that the majority of women (and men) who have anti gun fears are just that way because they're totally unfamiliar with guns to begin with. Just a few times seeing a real gun up close can do a lot to dissolve that fear.

 

[jpwilly]

See if E-Harmony will add a check box for Guns...like em or don't like em.

 

[alaskanativeson]

Would I hide my guns in my closet long enough to at least be able to sleep with an anti? Yeah.

Wow, I see why your screen name includes a dog. You'd actually mis-represent yourself just to get some sex? Must be a guy thing.

Oh, wait. I'm a guy too. :looks deep into own soul and decides that a young, single version of myself did the same thing. Often.:

Never mind. I understand.

 

[floods]

My girlfriend is fairly anti-gun, but she's pro-protector (me) and a pretty smart cookie, so I have a feeling that she might change her mind once she sees the "whole story" and not just what they say on TV. I think that most people who are anti-gun have that viewpoint out of fear or ignorance, but once you clear that fog from their eyes they can make a better decision by seeing both sides of the story.