I've made such an exception one time, and one time only....and I'm happily married to her! We met in college, and she was a city girl raised in a home by a single mother with 2 other sisters. She simply didn't have much exposure to firearms, other than the media, and we all know how that can work against us. At the time, being a college student, my guns were miles away on my parent's ranch. One day, she made the comment about how she'd
never want guns in the house. I stopped in my tracks, and simply told her then and there in all seriousness, that, if we were to remain together as a couple, we'd need to come to some sort of solution, because NOT having guns in my home wasn't going to be an option. She was initially resistent, but when every argument or point she tried to make was shot down by facts to the contrary, she began to weaken her views, and soon they were a distant memory. Now, she enjoys shooting, has bought me a firearm, and has one of her own. She's also comfortbale with using a handgun for home defense, and feels weird when we don't have immediate access to a firearm. She supported me getting my ccw and plans to get her permit herself. I didn't give up on her right away, because she was a product of her enviornment. if she had grown up in my shoes, she would have likely been shooting at age 10, but we grew up in two different worlds, and she had little understanding of mine. The viewpoints of a rural kid who grew up having an entire ranch to hunt and shoot on is bound to be different than a city girl raised in a home with no male influences whatsoever, and no one with even a slight interest in firearms. She was ignorant, but willing to learn, and that made all the difference to me.
Now, she's learned to embrace the values I was raised with on the ranch..being self-suffcient, , being prepared for whatever life throws at you, and a lack of dpendence on others for your basic needs. Had she not been willing to learn or expand her horizons, I'd have been quite sad to see her go, because I love her with all my heart...but some things i won't compromise on, and my right to own a gun is one of them.
Is she anti gun due to:
1) deep seated world views, bias, and lack of intelligent thought
or
2) just never considered the facts, but rational and could easily be swayed. interested enough in the realities of the world and history to be persuaded to learn to shoot. interested in self defense enough and independence enough to take up shooting.
stay far away from #1. god forbid you marry or reproduce with her. you will be miserable.
#2 is a viable possibility.
sums up what I was trying to say, and have proved to be correct!!!