Fantasy land is in full bloom around here, it appears. Men 95% of abuse and abusers? That''s painfully absurd. Let me see, the last ten instances I am aware of would be recorded as male abuse, but yet each was instigated by the woman, called in by the man and, when the cops arrived he went to jail. Three different couples. One I've been present for a couple times. The other two women I was present for their open statement that "Yeah, I knocked him around and then the cops hauled him off. Great, ain't it". So how much did that tilt those percentage do ya think?
My former best friend from highschool married a gorgeous blonde. Things were grand, till after the first kid. Then she took to a pattern of instigating violence. She'd yell, scream, curse and push and when he would try to leave she'd corner him and keep him in place. Did I mention she was of the Amazon gorgeous blonde pursuation? Meanwhile my little buddy was just that, one of those little guys.
Eventually he'd have enough and push, and when that didn't work he'd swing. And then she'd beat the hell out of him and then whine to everyone about how he hit her. Another damned abusive male, eh?
I was there. I saw it. Any number of times.
My first wife spent the last part of our marriage trying to get me to hit her. I never did. Frankly, looking back, I wish I'd cold cocked her a couple times. She deserved it. Yeah, you read that right: Deserved it.
My wife of now 12 years was the other side of the coin. She was abused before we got together. I scored a broken nose from him when they were breaking up because he blamed me. It was a statement of my own self restraint he's still walking and the .45 stayed in my belt. The guy has abused every woman he has been with since so maybe I shouldn't have been so restrained.
Men do more damage when they abuse. Society doesn't accept that women manipulate this fact. So we wind up with male abusers who jack up a system designed to see abuse from men in everything and women smart enough to use that system for their own benefit. It's a curse on men today and it damages the credibility of women who actually are abused. I for one can't manage to take any accusation seriously at first blush anymore. Then when crap like "95%" get's parrotted around it makes it even more impossible to take this "poor abused women" concept seriously.